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Uhh OK...either you live in a delusional reality or you are joking.Two made up books hahahahaha gtfo man
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Uhh OK...either you live in a delusional reality or you are joking.Two made up books hahahahaha gtfo man
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No, but I was on staff at Arthur Andersen during their final year of existence. Left with one hell of a Rolodex alsoHi Baron of Hair,
You read Arthur Updike?..
Or perhaps it requires having an intellect further than what you capabilities allow to understand.Why? Cause all religious books are the pretty much a plagiarism between each other written by men making up stories like some virgin lady got pregnant by a pigeon and from a couple came the whole mankind? Pfffftttt give me a break, wait until you hear that santa clause was actually your parents and not a fat white bearded guy who flies in a sled giving gifts.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Lighten up, brother!Zen and The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert M. Pirsig
Why Buddhism is True by Robert Wright
The Moral Animal by Robert Wright
The Dragons of Eden by Carl Sagan
Demon Haunted World by Carl Sagan
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate
Affective Neuroscience by Jaak Panksepp
The Myth of Mental Illness by Thomas Szasz
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
Letters from A Stoic by Seneca
Sickness Unto Death by Kiekegaard
Treatise of Human Nature by Hume
Notes from Underground by Dostoyevsky
Also hard for me to wanna plug self-help books, but Atomic Habits, Power of Now, and Radical Honesty, are pretty good too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm trying to get into fiction more for sure because it does offer something that nonfiction can't. And I shamelessly admit to still loving the Harry Potter books and some other children/young adult fiction like Eragon or The Amulet of Samarkand. I will have to add The Black Company series to my list, it sounds like a fun read.Lighten up, brother!
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I was never a big fan of fiction, but an internet fren put me on The Black Company series.
It's spectacular. You have a dark fantasy aspect, but also war tactics, courage and camaraderie.
I hadn't really read fiction since i was kid. I went through a self-help phase, combined with a philosophy phase, plus i love war history. So that's been the majority of my reading and i have plenty of those recommendations.I'm trying to get into fiction more for sure because it does offer something that nonfiction can't. And I shamelessly admit to still loving the Harry Potter books and some other children/young adult fiction like Eragon or The Amulet of Samarkand. I will have to add The Black Company series to my list, it sounds like a fun read.
Here's all the fiction books on my book list that I will eventually buy:
Roadside Picnic by Strugatsky
We by Zamyatin
1984 by Orwell
Norwegian Wood by Murakami
Oblivion: Stories
Three Body Problem
Ringworld
Expedition — Being an Account in Words and Artwork of the 2358 A.D. Voyage to Darwin IV
All Tomorrows
Here's a good list from the communityAny good book suggestions?
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Some of those are solid for sure (Aaron Clarey's for instance) but it's mostly PUA and self help which is cringe in excess.... Guess it depends what your goals are, are we assuming the reader is only interested in improving success with women? Regardless, these strike me as prototypical 'bro' books that aren't particularly well rounded but are mostly pontifications and ideological, matter-of-fact prose from randos that could all be the same person. How about some evolutionary biology/psychology/philosophy or some left fielders such as "Women" by Charles Bukowksi?Here's a good list from the community
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Everyone always asks time and time again for recommended books for men to read. So here you go. I broke it down into categories. When I read them, I usually got the book and audio versions. Dating & Relations The Book of Pook (free) The Rational Male The Book of Numbers: Analyzing the ROI on...www.sosuave.net
Not bro books at all. They encompass the idea at SS.Some of those are solid for sure (Aaron Clarey's for instance) but it's mostly PUA and self help which is cringe in excess.... Guess it depends what your goals are, are we assuming the reader is only interested in improving success with women? Regardless, these strike me as prototypical 'bro' books that aren't particularly well rounded but are mostly pontifications and ideological, matter-of-fact prose from randos that could all be the same person. How about some evolutionary biology/psychology/philosophy or some left fielders such as "Women" by Charles Bukowksi?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.