"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Books on wittiness/having good conversation?

youngmack

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Do any of you guys know any good books on becoming a good conversationalist and having good conversations? This is the part of my game SUCKS BIG time. I never know what to say and i am unable to guage her interest with good conversations.

My convos are always boring...i cant flirt, no witty things to make her laugh..nothing at all. Help please.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You just have to practice Bro, no book is gonna help you with this aspect of your life.
 

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This might be where PUA stuff might help you get the ball rolling. Not the actual material, but they have a lot of resources on how to hold a conversation.
 

youngmack

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@sam how do i practice doing this?

@kbomb pua material from where? Do you have any specific links??

I really need to get this part of my game tight. I attract HB8s and 9s but inalso bore then away with my convos. I always seem to kill their interests. Im such a bore.
 

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Dale Carnegie, author of How To Win Friends and Influence People, once astutely observed the best conversationalists are those who let the other person do all the talking. Listen carefully for "seeds," which are little things people say which you can build upon. This is the same principle taught in improv comedy classes: "Yes and," agree & amplify.

Law 4: Always Say Less than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I know it sound funny omega but without good or decent social skills one cannot be successful with women... Its not just for women i need this for even my male friends get bored of me. I barely have any friends to begin with. Largely because my conversation skills are doo doo.
 

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eh im not gonna front I'm a pretty quiet person who stays to myself so i shouldn't be laughing but I mean talk about anything, sports, movies, the weather lol, favorites clothes, stuff in the media
 
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