"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Books on wittiness/having good conversation?

youngmack

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Do any of you guys know any good books on becoming a good conversationalist and having good conversations? This is the part of my game SUCKS BIG time. I never know what to say and i am unable to guage her interest with good conversations.

My convos are always boring...i cant flirt, no witty things to make her laugh..nothing at all. Help please.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You just have to practice Bro, no book is gonna help you with this aspect of your life.
 

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This might be where PUA stuff might help you get the ball rolling. Not the actual material, but they have a lot of resources on how to hold a conversation.
 

youngmack

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@sam how do i practice doing this?

@kbomb pua material from where? Do you have any specific links??

I really need to get this part of my game tight. I attract HB8s and 9s but inalso bore then away with my convos. I always seem to kill their interests. Im such a bore.
 

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Dale Carnegie, author of How To Win Friends and Influence People, once astutely observed the best conversationalists are those who let the other person do all the talking. Listen carefully for "seeds," which are little things people say which you can build upon. This is the same principle taught in improv comedy classes: "Yes and," agree & amplify.

Law 4: Always Say Less than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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youngmack

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I know it sound funny omega but without good or decent social skills one cannot be successful with women... Its not just for women i need this for even my male friends get bored of me. I barely have any friends to begin with. Largely because my conversation skills are doo doo.
 

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eh im not gonna front I'm a pretty quiet person who stays to myself so i shouldn't be laughing but I mean talk about anything, sports, movies, the weather lol, favorites clothes, stuff in the media
 
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