"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Books on wittiness/having good conversation?

youngmack

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Do any of you guys know any good books on becoming a good conversationalist and having good conversations? This is the part of my game SUCKS BIG time. I never know what to say and i am unable to guage her interest with good conversations.

My convos are always boring...i cant flirt, no witty things to make her laugh..nothing at all. Help please.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SamTheHobit

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You just have to practice Bro, no book is gonna help you with this aspect of your life.
 

Kbomb

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This might be where PUA stuff might help you get the ball rolling. Not the actual material, but they have a lot of resources on how to hold a conversation.
 

youngmack

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@sam how do i practice doing this?

@kbomb pua material from where? Do you have any specific links??

I really need to get this part of my game tight. I attract HB8s and 9s but inalso bore then away with my convos. I always seem to kill their interests. Im such a bore.
 

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Dale Carnegie, author of How To Win Friends and Influence People, once astutely observed the best conversationalists are those who let the other person do all the talking. Listen carefully for "seeds," which are little things people say which you can build upon. This is the same principle taught in improv comedy classes: "Yes and," agree & amplify.

Law 4: Always Say Less than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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youngmack

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I know it sound funny omega but without good or decent social skills one cannot be successful with women... Its not just for women i need this for even my male friends get bored of me. I barely have any friends to begin with. Largely because my conversation skills are doo doo.
 

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eh im not gonna front I'm a pretty quiet person who stays to myself so i shouldn't be laughing but I mean talk about anything, sports, movies, the weather lol, favorites clothes, stuff in the media
 
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