You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
1. People tend to stand and walk with a slack stomach and hunched shoulders; their backs are crooked and their hips lopsided.
2. As a man and woman come in close visual range they both pull in their stomachs, throw out their shoulders, puff out their chests, lift their head up to appear taller and generally attempt to make themseleves appear sleeker and more youthful.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
sounds interesting... im gonna give this a shot... like it was mentioned before it is partly inside your head (inner game). if you feel confident chances are that it will reflect on your gate.Canadian Catnip said:I have been experimenting with how I walk as well. I heard this piece of good advice and it seems to work.
Wherever you are, act like you own the place. If you walk into a bar, imagine you're the owner. How would you walk if you were the owner?
In the mall, same thing. Walk around like you just built this incredible cool mall for everyone else to enjoy.
On the street. This is your street, you built it, you own it.
Whenever I remember to think like this I notice my walk changes.
I once told a friend I was walking with about this and he tried it for a minute and I could see his walk get a lot better.
Give it a try and think like this next time you are walking and see if your inner thinking changes how you walk.