Great perspective here man. Yea, it may have sucked a bit in the beginning but like the other poster said, you dodged a real f*cking bullet. Imagine trying to have kids with this broad? Can you imagine the personal hell you'd go through either way, whether it worked out or didn't? Imagine trying to get access to your kids when she went back to this loser. Imagine your kids being around this loser. F*ckin hell, she did you the biggest favor in the world. No long drawn out divorce battles so she can suck your resources dry. No long drawn out marriage so she can suck your resources dry. Seriously, spin plates, enjoy the relaxing situation of not having to deal with her nonsense anymore. You win, no matter how this turns out, always remember that.100% agree
A couple weeks later and I honestly don't really care. I'm glad I know why she bailed, and I'm somewhat relieved it's him she went back to. She'll get ****ed over again like she did every other time she was with him and she'll be right back where she was when I came along. I on the other hand will be and already am in a much better position in my life then I was when I first met her.
I didn't expect finding this out to feel like such a win.
I agree with this.This girl will come crawling back in a month, tops. Be ready. She will have gone out and banged several losers though so just know that. Pawn the watch, ignore her with all your soul.
If she didn't cheat, she definitely broke things off to pursue her ex again. It's no coincidence that he bumped in to her two weeks before she dumps me out of the blue, messaged her and tried to add her on social media the week leading up to her dumping, and then two weeks after dumping me she's suddenly back with him.I agree with this.
Grass is always greener somewhere else, until it isn't. I bet even money she tries to come back. Some women just cannot pair bond. If things are going too well, they wreck the relationship on purpose. I think @Medina is right too about you being too predictable and "safe." Women need stimulation. According to Tony Robbins, the first two core human needs are Certainty and Uncertainty https://www.habitsforwellbeing.com/6-core-human-needs-by-anthony-robbins/. I think this is amplified in relationships and with women in their lives. Women are always craving "excitement."
I don't think she cheated either. And even if she did, most women won't leave a 10 month relationship over some ONS or fling. If she takes an ex back who saddled her with $40K in debt, she's the type that craves abuse and mistreatment. If this is the case, she did you a huge favor.
Let us know how it turns out.