LOL thanks for the laugh Julian. I do agree with some of what you said.Bro you went full beta. She broke up with you because you adapted yourself to her traits and lifestyle when it shoud be the other way around.
She made the plans
She set the tone
She asserted dominance in the relationship
She lost respect for you, that on top of not d1cking her down properly or regularly.
She was trying to let u down easy. She was over the relationship a longgg time ago
Women are great actresses they can act like they love u and do all this lovey dovey bs while taking backshots from random alphas off tinder or just guys shes fked before etc.
Never surrender yourself a woman or her wishes. You dont even drink dude then she comes along and you completely changed yourself for her. Thats weak and she sensed it and she led u the entire way even thru the breakup and u still cant realize why she left you?
Yoo exhibited nothing but weakness and submissive behavior. U were not a challenge at all and sexually u did not satisfy her. The writing was on the wall bro. U got blinded by being lovebombed and showered with gifts and meaningless crap like partying.
Not only that but u got rekt since she was a 300lb hambeast yikes bro.
I've come to find that women with insecurity issues, low self-esteem and self image issues are more into being treated the way you and others describe. I've dated other women with these types of problems and they're pretty consistent with just wanting to be treated like they're beneath you even if they don't realize it. They're use to not feeling good enough and seem to get satisfaction in the constant struggle of trying to be good enough. Unfortunately, this girl seems to fit in to this category and I'm simply not interested in women like that.
Also, considering this is the first time I've ever been dumped, I'm pretty confident that what I'm doing in relationships works, for the most part.
At no time did I compromise my values while I dated her either. I wanted to drink. I wanted to get drunk. Nobody made me and I did set boundaries even for that. I didn't drink everytime she did or everytime we went out. I did it when I wanted to, when I knew I would enjoy it the most, and told her not to expect this from me on a regular basis. She was cool with that for the most part, but was a little more insecure when I chose not to drink.
I also think I've portrayed myself here as incredibly weak and pathetic, and maybe that's because I'm in a moment of weakness and I do feel pathetic.
When she pushed me too far, did something I did not like or disapproved I told her. I didn't just take it.
There was one night she passed out wasted at her aunt's place and I had to work in the morning but she kept us out late. On top of that I got stuck shoveling snow off her car when I didn't even have a winter coat, and I had to drive her mom home because she was drunk too. (I didn't drink anything!) I was so pissed off. I told her the following day and threatened to never come out to these functions again if she continued to act that way. I debated just ending the relationship there but opted to discuss the problem with her to see if it could be resolved. She apologized and it never happened again.