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Senior Don Juan
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You feel like **** afterwards.........
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Epic, but I can top it.JPlaya said:She goes to the bathroom and never returns
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I got you beat, she is on a date with you texting another guy that she will cook for him, the next day!nismo-4 said:Epic, but I can top it.
She keeps talking on her cell. To other guys. In front of you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ouch. Things like that turn some people into serial killersMike32ct said:3. At a bar date, she started talking to this other guy there. They started making out and left together right in front of me.
Wow dude, those were nasty rejections. How did you get over those?Mike32ct said:I've had a few less than optimal dates.
1. We went to a restaurant. She said she had to go to the ladies room. She walked right out the front door and never came back.
2. At the end of the restaurant date, she asked where I parked. She then said I should go out this door (pointing) and then she was going out another door on the opposite side of the building.
3. At a bar date, she started talking to this other guy there. They started making out and left together right in front of me.
Wow dude, those were nasty rejections. How did you get over those?Mike32ct said:I've had a few less than optimal dates.
1. We went to a restaurant. She said she had to go to the ladies room. She walked right out the front door and never came back.
2. At the end of the restaurant date, she asked where I parked. She then said I should go out this door (pointing) and then she was going out another door on the opposite side of the building.
3. At a bar date, she started talking to this other guy there. They started making out and left together right in front of me.
Wow dude, those were nasty rejections. How did you get over those?Mike32ct said:I've had a few less than optimal dates.
1. We went to a restaurant. She said she had to go to the ladies room. She walked right out the front door and never came back.
2. At the end of the restaurant date, she asked where I parked. She then said I should go out this door (pointing) and then she was going out another door on the opposite side of the building.
3. At a bar date, she started talking to this other guy there. They started making out and left together right in front of me.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.