"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You feel like **** afterwards.........
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What happened dude?

Failed date stories can be therapeutic for the poster and entertaining for the reader. Details!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How about this:

She says, "you are the rudest person ever!" and storms off in the opposite direction. Yes, I let her walk away.

Yeah, I sometimes make mistakes when I'm really drunk on a bad date. In my defense, she started it by being a HUGE waste of my time but not showing it until the 2nd date. This justified me drinking too much and then telling her that i was going home without even offering to walk her back to her car or saying goodbye. I went straight to a house party.
 

Yo'Mama

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What Bible Belt failed to add is that she was eight years old :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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great thread. cant remember any of my bad dates right now. maybe i blocked them out of my memory. will add later, if i can recall.
 

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I was a noob, keep in mind.

Girl showed up, we hugged. Damn is she gorgeous.

I pretty much take her straight to my room and try to instantly to to watching a movie "cuddling." Needless to say she "couldn't stay" much longer. Didn't even realize how awkward I was until evaluating it later.

Somehow I did get a couple other dates after that one still though.
 

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I've had a few less than optimal dates.

1. We went to a restaurant. She said she had to go to the ladies room. She walked right out the front door and never came back.

2. At the end of the restaurant date, she asked where I parked. She then said I should go out this door (pointing) and then she was going out another door on the opposite side of the building.

3. At a bar date, she started talking to this other guy there. They started making out and left together right in front of me.
 

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Never been on a really bad date myself. The worst that's ever happened to me was girls texting other dudes. Needless to say they didn't get a second date.
 
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On my very first date at a Cinema watching Cars, I went to lean in to kiss her towards the end of the film and we bumped heads. It wasn't a hard bump, but it totally killed the mood and I never heard from her again. Haven't seen her since either.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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well, most for me have been when they show up and look nothing like their photos. My instant thought: "great...I gotta see this one through" not to be mean, I would not walk out unless they were rude.

Lately though, they've looked better than their photo's.

reminds me of the seinfeld when elaine blind dates a guy.

she sees him, asks if his name is so and so...he says yes....she shows a sign of huge relief. ha ha
 

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Mike32ct said:
I've had a few less than optimal dates.

1. We went to a restaurant. She said she had to go to the ladies room. She walked right out the front door and never came back.

2. At the end of the restaurant date, she asked where I parked. She then said I should go out this door (pointing) and then she was going out another door on the opposite side of the building.

3. At a bar date, she started talking to this other guy there. They started making out and left together right in front of me.
Wow dude, those were nasty rejections. How did you get over those?

My worst date occurred last September. Met some foreign HB8 journalist from Bulgaria on line. We established rapport for about two months through emails and some phone conversations.

Well anyway, she calls me and tells me that she will be in Washington DC for a week attending a foreign journalist convention and invited me to come for a couple of days to hang out and tour the city.

I spend about 500 in round trip tickets plus another 300.00 on a hotel. Needless to say we agree to meet at her hotel. When I finally meet her although she looked like her photos, her personality was horrible. She had the biggest bytch shield and almost immediately started to look at her watch every so often as to suggest that she had something to do.

Although we both tried to act polite it was instantly obvious that there was no mutual attraction/chemistry at all from the start.

We ended the meeting in about 30 minutes after a few drinks at a bar. I just got up, called a cab and went back to my hotel without even saying goodbye.

It was by far the worst and most expensive semi blind date Ive ever had.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I've had a few less than optimal dates.

1. We went to a restaurant. She said she had to go to the ladies room. She walked right out the front door and never came back.

2. At the end of the restaurant date, she asked where I parked. She then said I should go out this door (pointing) and then she was going out another door on the opposite side of the building.

3. At a bar date, she started talking to this other guy there. They started making out and left together right in front of me.
Wow dude, those were nasty rejections. How did you get over those?

My worst date occurred last September. Met some foreign HB8 journalist from Bulgaria on line. We established rapport for about two months through emails and some phone conversations.

Well anyway, she calls me and tells me that she will be in Washington DC for a week attending a foreign journalist convention and invited me to come for a couple of days to hang out and tour the city.

I spend about 500 in round trip tickets plus another 300.00 on a hotel. Needless to say we agree to meet at her hotel. When I finally meet her although she looked like her photos, her personality was horrible. She had the biggest bytch shield and almost immediately started to look at her watch every so often as to suggest that she had something to do.

Although we both tried to act polite it was instantly obvious that there was no mutual attraction/chemistry at all from the start.

We ended the meeting in about 30 minutes after a few drinks at a bar. I just got up, called a cab and went back to my hotel without even saying goodbye.

It was by far the worst and most expensive semi blind date Ive ever had.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I've had a few less than optimal dates.

1. We went to a restaurant. She said she had to go to the ladies room. She walked right out the front door and never came back.

2. At the end of the restaurant date, she asked where I parked. She then said I should go out this door (pointing) and then she was going out another door on the opposite side of the building.

3. At a bar date, she started talking to this other guy there. They started making out and left together right in front of me.
Wow dude, those were nasty rejections. How did you get over those?

My worst date occurred last September. Met some foreign HB8 journalist from Bulgaria on line. We established rapport for about two months through emails and some phone conversations.

Well anyway, she calls me and tells me that she will be in Washington DC for a week attending a foreign journalist convention and invited me to come for a couple of days to hang out and tour the city.

I spend about 500 in round trip tickets plus another 300.00 on a hotel. Needless to say we agree to meet at her hotel. When I finally meet her although she looked like her photos, her personality was horrible. She had the biggest bytch shield and almost immediately started to look at her watch every so often as to suggest that she had something to do.

Although we both tried to act polite it was instantly obvious that there was no mutual attraction/chemistry at all from the start.

We ended the meeting in about 30 minutes after a few drinks at a bar. I just got up, called a cab and went back to my hotel without even saying goodbye.

It was by far the worst and most expensive semi blind date Ive ever had.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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