"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Best way to get over oneitis without seeing other girls

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Get serious about your no 1 hobby. Amp up your workout routine, write songs, design/market a new product, create a website,...

Just immerse yourself in something you're passionate about.
 

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SirFratserlot said:
I hate my college though which gives me a bitter perception constantly
That attitude isn't getting you anywhere, go out and leave campus. Do something new pick up a hobby.
 

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When people say "spin other plates" they don't just mean other women. Call your friends and go do something. Watch a movie or read a book you've always wanted to. Pick up a hobby that will involve your mind so that you spend time thinking about that instead. Treat her like she's already your ex - I'm assuming you have other exes - you don't care about them anymore right?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I remember when Britney Spears and Justin Timberlake broke up years ago. He was doing an interview as he was making a new album. The interviewer asked him if he had a new girlfriend. He said something like "I have 15 of them. The 15 songs on my new album. Those are my girlfriends right now."

Of course that album went multi-platinum and Britney went apesh*t, so I think the guy knew what he was doing. :)
 

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HoneyHitter said:
Get serious about your no 1 hobby. Amp up your workout routine, write songs, design/market a new product, create a website,...

Just immerse yourself in something you're passionate about.
I was about to say this exact same thing. All of these have been great responses. Also, find something you know you need improvement on (other than game) and work on it. Find something that motivates you and set goals for yourself, get your mind focused on something else.

dvjackson said:
Masturbate a lot. Seriously. The brain doesn't fixate too heavily on girls when your balls are always drained.
This too. If you're thinking about calling up your ex because you're horny and you're hoping she's down for a bang, instead, watch some porn with girls that are hotter than her. Afterwards you'll thank yourself. :up:
 

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plate's_empty said:
This too. If you're thinking about calling up your ex because you're horny and you're hoping she's down for a bang, instead, watch some porn with girls that are hotter than her. Afterwards you'll thank yourself. :up:
No. See the 6 months without FAP thread...I'm trying this now.
 

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substance abuse and weight lifting, at the same time if possible
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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expos said:
No. See the 6 months without FAP thread...I'm trying this now.
That's great...but if you're thinking about calling your ex....have a relapse and masturbate instead.
 

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At the end of the day nothing will replace getting over oneitis more than finding another (better) woman - if you can't do this at will, pick up a PUA/dating guide and practice the new hobby
 
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