"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Best way to get over oneitis without seeing other girls

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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HoneyHitter

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Get serious about your no 1 hobby. Amp up your workout routine, write songs, design/market a new product, create a website,...

Just immerse yourself in something you're passionate about.
 

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SirFratserlot said:
I hate my college though which gives me a bitter perception constantly
That attitude isn't getting you anywhere, go out and leave campus. Do something new pick up a hobby.
 

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When people say "spin other plates" they don't just mean other women. Call your friends and go do something. Watch a movie or read a book you've always wanted to. Pick up a hobby that will involve your mind so that you spend time thinking about that instead. Treat her like she's already your ex - I'm assuming you have other exes - you don't care about them anymore right?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I remember when Britney Spears and Justin Timberlake broke up years ago. He was doing an interview as he was making a new album. The interviewer asked him if he had a new girlfriend. He said something like "I have 15 of them. The 15 songs on my new album. Those are my girlfriends right now."

Of course that album went multi-platinum and Britney went apesh*t, so I think the guy knew what he was doing. :)
 

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HoneyHitter said:
Get serious about your no 1 hobby. Amp up your workout routine, write songs, design/market a new product, create a website,...

Just immerse yourself in something you're passionate about.
I was about to say this exact same thing. All of these have been great responses. Also, find something you know you need improvement on (other than game) and work on it. Find something that motivates you and set goals for yourself, get your mind focused on something else.

dvjackson said:
Masturbate a lot. Seriously. The brain doesn't fixate too heavily on girls when your balls are always drained.
This too. If you're thinking about calling up your ex because you're horny and you're hoping she's down for a bang, instead, watch some porn with girls that are hotter than her. Afterwards you'll thank yourself. :up:
 

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plate's_empty said:
This too. If you're thinking about calling up your ex because you're horny and you're hoping she's down for a bang, instead, watch some porn with girls that are hotter than her. Afterwards you'll thank yourself. :up:
No. See the 6 months without FAP thread...I'm trying this now.
 

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substance abuse and weight lifting, at the same time if possible
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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expos said:
No. See the 6 months without FAP thread...I'm trying this now.
That's great...but if you're thinking about calling your ex....have a relapse and masturbate instead.
 

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At the end of the day nothing will replace getting over oneitis more than finding another (better) woman - if you can't do this at will, pick up a PUA/dating guide and practice the new hobby
 
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