Here's my situation. I have a lot of hot chicks that used to go to my HS as friends on Facebook; but I haven't talked to many of them in years. Most of these girls only recognize me by name pretty much. I know that once she's interested and once I've successfully opened her; I can take it from there. But what's the best way to open a girl on Facebook, who you don't know that well?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Best way to game a girl on Facebook?
- Thread starter ElStud
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
post something funny or interesting and see if they respond or comment. Or comment on some of their sh!t. Get the banter and flirt going, ask for a date and a number.
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That's a trick question: you don't "game" anyone on Facebook. Unless they're already into you, which would then make Facebook redundant and unnecessary.ElStud said:
Women's Facebook egos are like trolls; don't feed 'em. You're better off spending your energy elsewhere, like actually approaching them in person instead of being yet another random guy from high school trying to get laid with the the only interaction you've had between each other were awkward whistful glances at each other x number of years ago.
Seriously, do you think that your online "persona", the fake little version of yourself (that I might add, everyone puts up) is going to compel a woman to feel ATTRACTION for you? All it takes is a guy with a strong enough reality to break her state and f*ck her while the cute little chat box in Facebook is still open with you waiting on the other side.
A lot of my dates and lays during the past year and half have come from Facebook. I never really put much thought into opening. I just said a brief "Hello, I recognise you from ???. How's life treating you these days?" type message. If she responded, I just build up the conversation as I would in person, show interest in her, then gradually escalate to some flirting, rapport building and, if she's responding well, I'll work upto some sex talk and then ask her to meet.
Just keep it simple and be yourself. You will get ignored and rejected, but that's not because of what you're saying, it's because she's just not interested in getting to know you. Just move onto the next.
Just keep it simple and be yourself. You will get ignored and rejected, but that's not because of what you're saying, it's because she's just not interested in getting to know you. Just move onto the next.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm in the Mood
Master Don Juan
Yes, this is a good idea but you don't want to just leave it at that. From what I've heard and read about online dating, you NEED to differentiate yourself from the rest of the male population by being more creative and unique. Maybe tell the girl something funny you remember about her, or mention something that happened to you awhile ago. That would be an easy way into rapport.ElStud said: