That’s a pretty sensible reply. I expected nothing less from you. At least you didn’t go the “All women who initiate are complete trash” route that
@fastlife and
@BeExcellent took. That’s discounting that guys like me exist (you’ve all seen with your own eyes that handsome effortless men exist), and that normal/non crazy women can be seducers. I’m either hallucinating quality women flirting with me my ENTIRE LIFE or those two are straight up hating/ trying to create their own narrative to support their argument, although it isn’t based on reality.....or at least MY reality.
People have a tendency to over exaggerate what I’ve said to support their narrative. I say social environments and it gets replaced with “social circle.” Ive seen such passive aggressive intellectual dishonesty across this forum.
I’ve said it many times over and over again. Women initiate through body language and signs of interest. The guy is NEVER the initiator. In fact if you initiate without any cues from her she might think you are completely inexperienced.
This is even more important in social environments. Women have a reputation to protect. THEY dictate the pace of the seduction. A man is always ready. Is a woman always ready or do we have to wait for her to be comfortable and completely sold on us? She’s the one who gives you hints to move things move. You are not initiating anything. At best you are moving at a pace she is comfortable with.
In all of my experiences being around women, the REASON why women are more aggressive towards me is because I show zero signs that I’m going to push it. It’s because I was either at work or an environment where I didn’t want to risk my reputation. And the women knew it. They knew it would be a big risk if I did anything, so they would go out of their way to give me plausible deniability and all I had to do was accept or decline.
But make no mistake there was plenty of eye contact, equal energy exchange from both parties, incidental sexual kino, and literally swimming in sexual tension.
Coming from this place, it’s just a matter of being alone. It’s not really that hard for women to through out a bait. They are not really putting much on the line when they already know I am DTF. They are not risking anything. They know I am part of the “sex club” because of my subcommunications so there is no risk being a little aggressive.
And that leads me to my other point. Some guys had early teenage success and they develop certain subcommunications that allow ALL women to know they are the guy you sleep with on the down low.
And when I say all women, I mean all women. Married, taken, single, virgin, trash, it don’t matter. That’s why you shouldn’t listen to women on these matters. They would never admit that guys like me exist. Or they’ll admit it but try to paint their own narrative by calling me insecure or my women trash. Anything to hide the true nature of women. My entire life women have treated me with zero rules. If you’re going to say they are all trash, then I will turn around and say 99% of women are all trash regardless of their relationship status. So I guess we can agree on that, lol.
Now, not all guys grew up as naturals, I understand. Some of you guys have to be more aggressive. I won’t knock you for that, as I’ve already said a million times.
And some of you guys are completely oblivious to the underlying sexual tension between men and women so you think the guy has to do everything and the woman is just there. This is the non experience guy.
Puas think women are mannequins and guys have to push all the buttons. This is so far removed from reality, it’s not even funny.
There are even guys who say any woman who initiates is straight up needy. Again, far removed from reality.
For the one millionth time, the interaction starts before you even open your mouth.
The two of you already notice each other. And if she is interested, she will give you what is known as an ioi. Have I lost anybody yet?
Some guys can instantly cause women to throw a massively obvious ioi. And some guys get a subtle ioi. But either way, the woman is the one initiating contact.
This is when you my
@samspade approaches her. As soon as you do, some women experience an attraction spike because you show her you can vibe with her subcommunications. This is the ultimate key. Read that again.
At this point she will backwards rationalize that you must be attractive because you did all the right things and vibed with her perfectly. You are on her wavelength.
It is at this point that she will have totally surrendered to you. And ONLY at this point can you lead her. It’s because shes in a state of reflex compliance. She is complying with you out of pure reflex.
She understands your ego and does not want to offend it in anyway. She picks up your frame and idiosyncrasies and adopt it as her own. In a sense, she is molding herself to you.
So yes as a man you do mold her. But it is not after you’ve perfectly vibed with her and show her that you guys are on the same wavelength.
This is why many women say “I wasn’t feeling the vibe.”
Ive myself messed up the vibe many times. There was this one time when my gut told me don’t try to force my penis inside of her, just take my time and go with the flow. But then I was like “Fvck it I’m a man. Men are aggressive” and tried to jam it in and ruined the whole sex - and relationship.
The sad part was we had perfect chemistry and were definitely on the same wavelength. But I made her pvssy dry by skipping foreplay and trying to force the issue and that was a point of no return.
I give you guys that as an example to show you it’s not all about you. Your body and her body has to be in sync.
Women give you signs to let you know when they are ready. Some guys get massive signs like me. And some guys get subtle signs.
But hey, if you guys want to act like you exist in a vacuum and she has no part in seduction, then go ahead blow yourself out from every social environment. I think I see why some guys are so against social environments. They run through it like a bull in a china shop with zero social awareness.
TLDR: I am hyper aware of the underlying vibe and women’s subcommunications. In fact I pretty much live in the world of sexual tension. So it’s not just my smv value. It’s the totality of my experience.
I used to think it was all about me. But now I know it’s the chemistry between two people.
I interact with women with my authentic baseline personality and nothing more. There’s no “game” in my consciousness. Nothing is contrived, everything flows.