When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
So if big pecs IS UGLY for men, then IS BIG PECS, good on women?newbie81 said:Best chest exercise:
heavy bench press
stretch pecs with db flies/low db press
don't only work pecs, big pecs is ugly for men, men need big shoulders & big necks, concentrate on overhead strength.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
idd, watch out for stretching, overdoing is bad.Warboss Alex said:the chest responds extremely (structurally) to stretching but it's easy to overdo if you're not careful.
newbie81 - I like your style. let the pecs stay on the pretty male fitness models, what we want are huge slab-like traps, shoulders like cannonballs and a back as thick as a brick wall. guys like that turn more heads than puffed up pecs do.
Yes I like women with big breasts.brucevangeorge said:So if big pecs IS UGLY for men, then IS BIG PECS, good on women?
Arnold IS HAD big pecs. IS UGLY?
No is no ugly.
You know.... b1tch tits are not pecs. Why wouldn't you want a nice muscular chest?newbie81 said:Yes I like women with big breasts.
Men should have big legs, big shoulders, big neck, wide back. Breasts is for women.
"Les gouts et les couleurs ne se discutent pas".
your body will allow this by making the chest bigger as well. you make this process easier by direct chest training but even if you didn't train chest I doubt your pecs would stay the same size as long as your squat and deadlifts were soaringAnd you do realize that you cannot have a big back without a chest that is proportinatelly as strong and large. You body will not allow it. IT will limit the size that the back can grow for safety reasons. To prevent injury.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
you can't compare biceps with chest. but working your back will make your biceps AND your chest grow.brucevangeorge said:Ok, so what you're saying is....
Extreme example:
If I go and I do heavy ass barbell curls, I'll get inhuman biceps? Including triceps? Without doing any other exercise to stimualte Tris?
The biceps potential size and strength will be limited by the size and stength of the triceps. Have you seen a guy with huge Bis but no Tris? Not likely.
Same goes for chest and back. They are antagonistic and if you have antagonistic muscles overpower each other....
Warboss Alex said:you can't compare biceps with chest. but working your back will make your biceps AND your chest grow.
but hell, you're 19 and know everything, right?![]()
yeah but .. oh, have it your way.brucevangeorge said:I don't know everything and I pray I never will, but I was simply comparing biceps to chest because of the relation between the antagonistic muscles.
Chest, back. Bis, Tris.
Hmm, good point.Warboss Alex said:yeah but .. oh, have it your way.
I've never seen a heavy squatter with a small chest though!