Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I'm still pretty cool. I'm just older. I joined this forum when I was 18. I turn 25 next month. I'm dealing with too many things in life these days to contend with the DJ forums. Stop by every now and then, was planning on writing a really comprehensive essay on the things I've learned over the last several years.Oxide said:Look who crawled from the attic.
Whatever happened to you man, you used to be pretty cool, I still rememember that "Accidental slip in while foreplay" technique![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dude I would LOVE to read that, seriously, I think you have a lot of practical advice, so yeah get on that!REd-xL said:I'm still pretty cool. I'm just older. I joined this forum when I was 18. I turn 25 next month. I'm dealing with too many things in life these days to contend with the DJ forums. Stop by every now and then, was planning on writing a really comprehensive essay on the things I've learned over the last several years.
Yeah, no 5hit. Hope life's treating you well, Red.Look who crawled from the attic.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Oxide said:Look who crawled from the attic.
My vote goes to the Game's New CD - Doctor's Advocate.
Along with Jay-z Kingdom come
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The new game cd is wack as a motherf.ucker. I listened to every song, and I'd be just fine if I never heard a single one of them ever again. Same with the new Lloyd Banks. Hunger for More was badass, then he comes out with the Rotten Apple horses.hit! Boring beats, no catchy lyrics on both of those cds.
CrunchyNut said:Muse-Black Holes and Revelations
My life revolves around music, just not professionally. I write articles and reviews for some zines, keep an mp3 blog, and make a little (****ty) music of my own on the side. I eat, sleep, and breathe music. I kept count, and I've listened to over 1200 albums this year alone. It's easy enough to do when 90% of it only gets one spin because I end up disliking most of what I hear. But coming across that 10% is what keeps me going...at the gym, in the car, falling asleep, etc.Ricky said:I've only heard of one of those bands in that top 50 list. I don't think I've listened to 50 albums this year. Where do you find that time? Impressive list, you must be in the business?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.