"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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You also need to be adding weight to your squats and deads, these will increase your bench as well.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
John_Galt said:.... I'm approaching the weight class of Arnold and I can't bench press over 200. Weight doesn't mean you're going to get big. I've seen skinny punks that move more weight than I do.
Which brings up an interesting point. How much of BPing is mental??
Following an accident last year, I was benching 65lbs. Over the following 14/15 months, I've gradually worked up to 175lbs - my goal is 225, about 1.5x my body weight. As I've worked my way up to the 160/170 range, I noticed that this level of weights seriously has begun testing my mental resolve.
About a month ago I was having a seriously bad morning, moodwise, lots of crap going on, and I couldn't push past 3 reps on my first set. Next time around, about 5 days later, I was able to push out my 4x4 without a hitch. The other day, on my first rep of my first set, I realized my grip was uneven as hell, my concentration was beaten down and I got trapped by the damn BB!
In other words, if a puny, skinny guy has the concentration, is it possible for him to lift as much as a bigger guy who can't focus well, all other things being equal?
Mental is a lot of it. I don't have weight goals for myself though, my goal is putting on as much muscle as possible, and that's what I've been doing, I typically push 155, 8 times for three sets. I throw my body so many curve balls, volume cycles, and speed changing, that it doesn't have time to adapt to gain strength.insidious said:Which brings up an interesting point. How much of BPing is mental??
Following an accident last year, I was benching 65lbs. Over the following 14/15 months, I've gradually worked up to 175lbs - my goal is 225, about 1.5x my body weight. As I've worked my way up to the 160/170 range, I noticed that this level of weights seriously has begun testing my mental resolve.
About a month ago I was having a seriously bad morning, moodwise, lots of crap going on, and I couldn't push past 3 reps on my first set. Next time around, about 5 days later, I was able to push out my 4x4 without a hitch. The other day, on my first rep of my first set, I realized my grip was uneven as hell, my concentration was beaten down and I got trapped by the damn BB!
In other words, if a puny, skinny guy has the concentration, is it possible for him to lift as much as a bigger guy who can't focus well, all other things being equal?