"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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You also need to be adding weight to your squats and deads, these will increase your bench as well.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
John_Galt said:.... I'm approaching the weight class of Arnold and I can't bench press over 200. Weight doesn't mean you're going to get big. I've seen skinny punks that move more weight than I do.
Which brings up an interesting point. How much of BPing is mental??
Following an accident last year, I was benching 65lbs. Over the following 14/15 months, I've gradually worked up to 175lbs - my goal is 225, about 1.5x my body weight. As I've worked my way up to the 160/170 range, I noticed that this level of weights seriously has begun testing my mental resolve.
About a month ago I was having a seriously bad morning, moodwise, lots of crap going on, and I couldn't push past 3 reps on my first set. Next time around, about 5 days later, I was able to push out my 4x4 without a hitch. The other day, on my first rep of my first set, I realized my grip was uneven as hell, my concentration was beaten down and I got trapped by the damn BB!
In other words, if a puny, skinny guy has the concentration, is it possible for him to lift as much as a bigger guy who can't focus well, all other things being equal?
Mental is a lot of it. I don't have weight goals for myself though, my goal is putting on as much muscle as possible, and that's what I've been doing, I typically push 155, 8 times for three sets. I throw my body so many curve balls, volume cycles, and speed changing, that it doesn't have time to adapt to gain strength.insidious said:Which brings up an interesting point. How much of BPing is mental??
Following an accident last year, I was benching 65lbs. Over the following 14/15 months, I've gradually worked up to 175lbs - my goal is 225, about 1.5x my body weight. As I've worked my way up to the 160/170 range, I noticed that this level of weights seriously has begun testing my mental resolve.
About a month ago I was having a seriously bad morning, moodwise, lots of crap going on, and I couldn't push past 3 reps on my first set. Next time around, about 5 days later, I was able to push out my 4x4 without a hitch. The other day, on my first rep of my first set, I realized my grip was uneven as hell, my concentration was beaten down and I got trapped by the damn BB!
In other words, if a puny, skinny guy has the concentration, is it possible for him to lift as much as a bigger guy who can't focus well, all other things being equal?