"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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You also need to be adding weight to your squats and deads, these will increase your bench as well.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
John_Galt said:.... I'm approaching the weight class of Arnold and I can't bench press over 200. Weight doesn't mean you're going to get big. I've seen skinny punks that move more weight than I do.
Which brings up an interesting point. How much of BPing is mental??
Following an accident last year, I was benching 65lbs. Over the following 14/15 months, I've gradually worked up to 175lbs - my goal is 225, about 1.5x my body weight. As I've worked my way up to the 160/170 range, I noticed that this level of weights seriously has begun testing my mental resolve.
About a month ago I was having a seriously bad morning, moodwise, lots of crap going on, and I couldn't push past 3 reps on my first set. Next time around, about 5 days later, I was able to push out my 4x4 without a hitch. The other day, on my first rep of my first set, I realized my grip was uneven as hell, my concentration was beaten down and I got trapped by the damn BB!
In other words, if a puny, skinny guy has the concentration, is it possible for him to lift as much as a bigger guy who can't focus well, all other things being equal?
Mental is a lot of it. I don't have weight goals for myself though, my goal is putting on as much muscle as possible, and that's what I've been doing, I typically push 155, 8 times for three sets. I throw my body so many curve balls, volume cycles, and speed changing, that it doesn't have time to adapt to gain strength.insidious said:Which brings up an interesting point. How much of BPing is mental??
Following an accident last year, I was benching 65lbs. Over the following 14/15 months, I've gradually worked up to 175lbs - my goal is 225, about 1.5x my body weight. As I've worked my way up to the 160/170 range, I noticed that this level of weights seriously has begun testing my mental resolve.
About a month ago I was having a seriously bad morning, moodwise, lots of crap going on, and I couldn't push past 3 reps on my first set. Next time around, about 5 days later, I was able to push out my 4x4 without a hitch. The other day, on my first rep of my first set, I realized my grip was uneven as hell, my concentration was beaten down and I got trapped by the damn BB!
In other words, if a puny, skinny guy has the concentration, is it possible for him to lift as much as a bigger guy who can't focus well, all other things being equal?