"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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You also need to be adding weight to your squats and deads, these will increase your bench as well.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
John_Galt said:.... I'm approaching the weight class of Arnold and I can't bench press over 200. Weight doesn't mean you're going to get big. I've seen skinny punks that move more weight than I do.
Which brings up an interesting point. How much of BPing is mental??
Following an accident last year, I was benching 65lbs. Over the following 14/15 months, I've gradually worked up to 175lbs - my goal is 225, about 1.5x my body weight. As I've worked my way up to the 160/170 range, I noticed that this level of weights seriously has begun testing my mental resolve.
About a month ago I was having a seriously bad morning, moodwise, lots of crap going on, and I couldn't push past 3 reps on my first set. Next time around, about 5 days later, I was able to push out my 4x4 without a hitch. The other day, on my first rep of my first set, I realized my grip was uneven as hell, my concentration was beaten down and I got trapped by the damn BB!
In other words, if a puny, skinny guy has the concentration, is it possible for him to lift as much as a bigger guy who can't focus well, all other things being equal?
Mental is a lot of it. I don't have weight goals for myself though, my goal is putting on as much muscle as possible, and that's what I've been doing, I typically push 155, 8 times for three sets. I throw my body so many curve balls, volume cycles, and speed changing, that it doesn't have time to adapt to gain strength.insidious said:Which brings up an interesting point. How much of BPing is mental??
Following an accident last year, I was benching 65lbs. Over the following 14/15 months, I've gradually worked up to 175lbs - my goal is 225, about 1.5x my body weight. As I've worked my way up to the 160/170 range, I noticed that this level of weights seriously has begun testing my mental resolve.
About a month ago I was having a seriously bad morning, moodwise, lots of crap going on, and I couldn't push past 3 reps on my first set. Next time around, about 5 days later, I was able to push out my 4x4 without a hitch. The other day, on my first rep of my first set, I realized my grip was uneven as hell, my concentration was beaten down and I got trapped by the damn BB!
In other words, if a puny, skinny guy has the concentration, is it possible for him to lift as much as a bigger guy who can't focus well, all other things being equal?