"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being sexy, as a men.

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We can figure out the image of a sexy women, but how could we figure out the image of a sexy men?
Which is the image of a sexy men for a women?

This is a hard thing to do for an hetero men, because in our imagination we don't have a sexy men, but a women instead.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's not really that hard.

Ever been on a beach when a guy with a nice body and six pack abs walks by and all the women almost break their necks turning their head to look at him?
 

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I think it's a big difference if you are talking about famous persons or the ones that women know in person. Famous persons are mysterious by default and you can project whatever you want into them. Or they find some actor sexy because of a role he played.

Real persons don't play roles and you can't project that much. Attitude, thus, becomes probably the most decisive factor.
 

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Attitude, thus, becomes probably the most decisive factor.
Do you mean men attitude towards? I've commentend something interesting here . I never felt envy, but Instead I desire to achieve this skill He has. What skill name, and how we can achieve it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think it's a big difference if you are talking about famous persons or the ones that women know in person. Famous persons are mysterious by default and you can project whatever you want into them. Or they find some actor sexy because of a role he played.

Real persons don't play roles and you can't project that much. Attitude, thus, becomes probably the most decisive factor.
After a woman knows you for a while, sure. But when they don't know anything about you, your looks are what the differentiating factor is at that point.
 
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