"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Being more laid-back

RollinDoobs

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I feel like people that are less energetic, chill, laid-back, mono-toned and generally un-excited are more attractive to women and have more friends because they have a mysterious quality about them. People pay attention when they talk because they dont talk very often. It seems like girls are also more attracted to guys who dont talk as much. More energetic people are talking like 80% of the time with girls whereas chill, calm people talk like 30%.
I want to make myself a little less talkative. Being too talkative is obnoxious and sometimes, mostly when Im blazed, I tend to ramble. I want to talk less and seem less interested. How can I make myself more laid-back?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Konada

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I'm a naturally chill, laid back person so I'll give you a brief insight into how I deal with social settings. Usually I'll be really just looking around and enjoying the surroundings around me. A good thing about this is that you can pick up stuff that can be spontaneous openers/topics for discussion. Also, try to listen more to others when they talk.

It also means you have to be less invested in the social setting as well. Balance is key if you don't want to seem like you absolutely was forced to come.
 

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Ive noticed this too, but you also have to have confident almost over exaggerated body language with the laid back attitude or you come off as timid. Just remember you got 2 ears and 1 mouth so should talk half as much as you listen.. Hope my post makes sense
 
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