"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being more laid-back

RollinDoobs

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I feel like people that are less energetic, chill, laid-back, mono-toned and generally un-excited are more attractive to women and have more friends because they have a mysterious quality about them. People pay attention when they talk because they dont talk very often. It seems like girls are also more attracted to guys who dont talk as much. More energetic people are talking like 80% of the time with girls whereas chill, calm people talk like 30%.
I want to make myself a little less talkative. Being too talkative is obnoxious and sometimes, mostly when Im blazed, I tend to ramble. I want to talk less and seem less interested. How can I make myself more laid-back?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Konada

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I'm a naturally chill, laid back person so I'll give you a brief insight into how I deal with social settings. Usually I'll be really just looking around and enjoying the surroundings around me. A good thing about this is that you can pick up stuff that can be spontaneous openers/topics for discussion. Also, try to listen more to others when they talk.

It also means you have to be less invested in the social setting as well. Balance is key if you don't want to seem like you absolutely was forced to come.
 

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Ive noticed this too, but you also have to have confident almost over exaggerated body language with the laid back attitude or you come off as timid. Just remember you got 2 ears and 1 mouth so should talk half as much as you listen.. Hope my post makes sense
 
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