"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Being more laid-back

RollinDoobs

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I feel like people that are less energetic, chill, laid-back, mono-toned and generally un-excited are more attractive to women and have more friends because they have a mysterious quality about them. People pay attention when they talk because they dont talk very often. It seems like girls are also more attracted to guys who dont talk as much. More energetic people are talking like 80% of the time with girls whereas chill, calm people talk like 30%.
I want to make myself a little less talkative. Being too talkative is obnoxious and sometimes, mostly when Im blazed, I tend to ramble. I want to talk less and seem less interested. How can I make myself more laid-back?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Konada

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I'm a naturally chill, laid back person so I'll give you a brief insight into how I deal with social settings. Usually I'll be really just looking around and enjoying the surroundings around me. A good thing about this is that you can pick up stuff that can be spontaneous openers/topics for discussion. Also, try to listen more to others when they talk.

It also means you have to be less invested in the social setting as well. Balance is key if you don't want to seem like you absolutely was forced to come.
 

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Ive noticed this too, but you also have to have confident almost over exaggerated body language with the laid back attitude or you come off as timid. Just remember you got 2 ears and 1 mouth so should talk half as much as you listen.. Hope my post makes sense
 
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