"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Being led on?

IBreatheSpears

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So, a week ago I made a thread about this girl I met on Tinder who I thought was wasting my time and impulsively unfriended her on facebook immediately before receiving a message that she was free on the weekend (that would've been this weekend). Anyway so I pretended like nothing had happened and suggested meeting up this Saturday (yesterday) but she didn't get back to me. On Friday I deleted my Tinder and created it again so that I could go back through, and I matched with her prompting this conversation:

http://imgur.com/Y4HOgo8

I replied "so you just like me for my looks? ;)" and she hasn't replied.

Is she just playing me for attention, throwing me a "you're good looking" bone to keep me at her beck-and-call, or might she actually be willing to meet up?

I'm going to be in her area on Saturday morning (meeting up with a different girl on Friday and I'll probably sleep there ;)). Should I call her on the day (maintaining NC in the mean time) and say "I'm in X area, what are you up to?" or just NEXT her and forget it? I suppose it can't hurt to try -- if she says no then it wasn't gonna happen anyway I'll just calmly say "Okay. Delete my number please. Bye." and hang up.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yo'Mama

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Maybe I'm becoming old and cynical but I just can't deal with this anymore. I know guys are supposed to chase but I just don't want to put up with these female games, they're so childish and irritating. Sure, give it one more go, there's nothing to lose but realise it's unlikely anything will come of this.
 

IBreatheSpears

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Yeah, it is irritating. There are lots of girls like that on Tinder and I usually use them as Game practice. The other girl I'm seeing is quite sweet, barely a hint of a shít-test or anything from her and she's not even unattractive, but I think she's a little loose, physically and metaphorically. This one is an 8 which would be the hottest I've scored so far and we have a quite a bit in common which is why I still want to meet her. And I think she's rich so I can get her to buy me drinks ;) Anyway, yeah, I'll see what she says on Saturday after 8-9 days of NC.
 

IBreatheSpears

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Do girls like that actually want to get laid? I'm guessing the answer is "yes -- but not by you"? How do you Game them? Most of you will probably say not to bother but I'm curious, and if I meet another one maybe the old pump-n-dump would put her back in her place. IIRC in this case I opened with a neg but I think tried too hard to entertain her and made myself appear overeager (which, tbh, I was because I've not been with a girl quite as attractive as her thus far) when I should have been more aloof.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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