"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Being led on?

IBreatheSpears

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So, a week ago I made a thread about this girl I met on Tinder who I thought was wasting my time and impulsively unfriended her on facebook immediately before receiving a message that she was free on the weekend (that would've been this weekend). Anyway so I pretended like nothing had happened and suggested meeting up this Saturday (yesterday) but she didn't get back to me. On Friday I deleted my Tinder and created it again so that I could go back through, and I matched with her prompting this conversation:

http://imgur.com/Y4HOgo8

I replied "so you just like me for my looks? ;)" and she hasn't replied.

Is she just playing me for attention, throwing me a "you're good looking" bone to keep me at her beck-and-call, or might she actually be willing to meet up?

I'm going to be in her area on Saturday morning (meeting up with a different girl on Friday and I'll probably sleep there ;)). Should I call her on the day (maintaining NC in the mean time) and say "I'm in X area, what are you up to?" or just NEXT her and forget it? I suppose it can't hurt to try -- if she says no then it wasn't gonna happen anyway I'll just calmly say "Okay. Delete my number please. Bye." and hang up.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Yo'Mama

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Maybe I'm becoming old and cynical but I just can't deal with this anymore. I know guys are supposed to chase but I just don't want to put up with these female games, they're so childish and irritating. Sure, give it one more go, there's nothing to lose but realise it's unlikely anything will come of this.
 

IBreatheSpears

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Yeah, it is irritating. There are lots of girls like that on Tinder and I usually use them as Game practice. The other girl I'm seeing is quite sweet, barely a hint of a shít-test or anything from her and she's not even unattractive, but I think she's a little loose, physically and metaphorically. This one is an 8 which would be the hottest I've scored so far and we have a quite a bit in common which is why I still want to meet her. And I think she's rich so I can get her to buy me drinks ;) Anyway, yeah, I'll see what she says on Saturday after 8-9 days of NC.
 

IBreatheSpears

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Do girls like that actually want to get laid? I'm guessing the answer is "yes -- but not by you"? How do you Game them? Most of you will probably say not to bother but I'm curious, and if I meet another one maybe the old pump-n-dump would put her back in her place. IIRC in this case I opened with a neg but I think tried too hard to entertain her and made myself appear overeager (which, tbh, I was because I've not been with a girl quite as attractive as her thus far) when I should have been more aloof.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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