"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Being in control

Crissco

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Got a bit of a problem here. Long story short, me and my father both like being in control. Were both good when it comes to women, but when I get around him, and another womans in the room, we both want to be in control. The fact im living with my father I cant do everything I want and I have to listen to a degree but I feel when I have a GF this will take away from my relationship, because in every other situation im in control except when im around him. Basically what im asking does a girl always like a girl whos in control. Not of him self but of the situation, or do you think she'll understand my situation. This has been bothering me a lot lately and been thinking about it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mantis Toboggan

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Crissco said:
Got a bit of a problem here. Long story short, me and my father both like being in control. Were both good when it comes to women, but when I get around him, and another womans in the room, we both want to be in control. The fact im living with my father I cant do everything I want and I have to listen to a degree but I feel when I have a GF this will take away from my relationship, because in every other situation im in control except when im around him. Basically what im asking does a girl always like a girl whos in control. Not of him self but of the situation, or do you think she'll understand my situation. This has been bothering me a lot lately and been thinking about it.
Sounds like you've been thinking too much, buddy.

How about you (STEP 1) get this hypothetical girlfriend. Then (STEP 2) worry about this other nonsense.

There have to be about 1 billion things more important to a girl than how dominant your father will act when she's around.

Sure, women like men who are in control. But common sense tells you that a girl doesn't expect you to dominate 100% of the people you encounter in life. This imaginary girlfriend isn't going to go running away from you because your dad is bossy the 1% of the time she sees him. I mean, you don't plan on bringing Dad out on the dates with you, right?
 

Crissco

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Mantis Toboggan said:
Sounds like you've been thinking too much, buddy.

How about you (STEP 1) get this hypothetical girlfriend. Then (STEP 2) worry about this other nonsense.

There have to be about 1 billion things more important to a girl than how dominant your father will act when she's around.

Sure, women like men who are in control. But common sense tells you that a girl doesn't expect you to dominate 100% of the people you encounter in life. This imaginary girlfriend isn't going to go running away from you because your dad is bossy the 1% of the time she sees him. I mean, you don't plan on bringing Dad out on the dates with you, right?
You gotta point
 

JLW

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Mantis is spot-on. No need for other opinions.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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