"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Being in control

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Got a bit of a problem here. Long story short, me and my father both like being in control. Were both good when it comes to women, but when I get around him, and another womans in the room, we both want to be in control. The fact im living with my father I cant do everything I want and I have to listen to a degree but I feel when I have a GF this will take away from my relationship, because in every other situation im in control except when im around him. Basically what im asking does a girl always like a girl whos in control. Not of him self but of the situation, or do you think she'll understand my situation. This has been bothering me a lot lately and been thinking about it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Crissco said:
Got a bit of a problem here. Long story short, me and my father both like being in control. Were both good when it comes to women, but when I get around him, and another womans in the room, we both want to be in control. The fact im living with my father I cant do everything I want and I have to listen to a degree but I feel when I have a GF this will take away from my relationship, because in every other situation im in control except when im around him. Basically what im asking does a girl always like a girl whos in control. Not of him self but of the situation, or do you think she'll understand my situation. This has been bothering me a lot lately and been thinking about it.
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Sounds like you've been thinking too much, buddy.

How about you (STEP 1) get this hypothetical girlfriend. Then (STEP 2) worry about this other nonsense.

There have to be about 1 billion things more important to a girl than how dominant your father will act when she's around.

Sure, women like men who are in control. But common sense tells you that a girl doesn't expect you to dominate 100% of the people you encounter in life. This imaginary girlfriend isn't going to go running away from you because your dad is bossy the 1% of the time she sees him. I mean, you don't plan on bringing Dad out on the dates with you, right?
 
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Mantis Toboggan said:
Sounds like you've been thinking too much, buddy.

How about you (STEP 1) get this hypothetical girlfriend. Then (STEP 2) worry about this other nonsense.

There have to be about 1 billion things more important to a girl than how dominant your father will act when she's around.

Sure, women like men who are in control. But common sense tells you that a girl doesn't expect you to dominate 100% of the people you encounter in life. This imaginary girlfriend isn't going to go running away from you because your dad is bossy the 1% of the time she sees him. I mean, you don't plan on bringing Dad out on the dates with you, right?
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Mantis is spot-on. No need for other opinions.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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