"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being in control

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Got a bit of a problem here. Long story short, me and my father both like being in control. Were both good when it comes to women, but when I get around him, and another womans in the room, we both want to be in control. The fact im living with my father I cant do everything I want and I have to listen to a degree but I feel when I have a GF this will take away from my relationship, because in every other situation im in control except when im around him. Basically what im asking does a girl always like a girl whos in control. Not of him self but of the situation, or do you think she'll understand my situation. This has been bothering me a lot lately and been thinking about it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Crissco said:
Got a bit of a problem here. Long story short, me and my father both like being in control. Were both good when it comes to women, but when I get around him, and another womans in the room, we both want to be in control. The fact im living with my father I cant do everything I want and I have to listen to a degree but I feel when I have a GF this will take away from my relationship, because in every other situation im in control except when im around him. Basically what im asking does a girl always like a girl whos in control. Not of him self but of the situation, or do you think she'll understand my situation. This has been bothering me a lot lately and been thinking about it.
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Sounds like you've been thinking too much, buddy.

How about you (STEP 1) get this hypothetical girlfriend. Then (STEP 2) worry about this other nonsense.

There have to be about 1 billion things more important to a girl than how dominant your father will act when she's around.

Sure, women like men who are in control. But common sense tells you that a girl doesn't expect you to dominate 100% of the people you encounter in life. This imaginary girlfriend isn't going to go running away from you because your dad is bossy the 1% of the time she sees him. I mean, you don't plan on bringing Dad out on the dates with you, right?
 
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Mantis Toboggan said:
Sounds like you've been thinking too much, buddy.

How about you (STEP 1) get this hypothetical girlfriend. Then (STEP 2) worry about this other nonsense.

There have to be about 1 billion things more important to a girl than how dominant your father will act when she's around.

Sure, women like men who are in control. But common sense tells you that a girl doesn't expect you to dominate 100% of the people you encounter in life. This imaginary girlfriend isn't going to go running away from you because your dad is bossy the 1% of the time she sees him. I mean, you don't plan on bringing Dad out on the dates with you, right?
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You gotta point
 
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Mantis is spot-on. No need for other opinions.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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