"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Being in control

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Got a bit of a problem here. Long story short, me and my father both like being in control. Were both good when it comes to women, but when I get around him, and another womans in the room, we both want to be in control. The fact im living with my father I cant do everything I want and I have to listen to a degree but I feel when I have a GF this will take away from my relationship, because in every other situation im in control except when im around him. Basically what im asking does a girl always like a girl whos in control. Not of him self but of the situation, or do you think she'll understand my situation. This has been bothering me a lot lately and been thinking about it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Crissco said:
Got a bit of a problem here. Long story short, me and my father both like being in control. Were both good when it comes to women, but when I get around him, and another womans in the room, we both want to be in control. The fact im living with my father I cant do everything I want and I have to listen to a degree but I feel when I have a GF this will take away from my relationship, because in every other situation im in control except when im around him. Basically what im asking does a girl always like a girl whos in control. Not of him self but of the situation, or do you think she'll understand my situation. This has been bothering me a lot lately and been thinking about it.
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Sounds like you've been thinking too much, buddy.

How about you (STEP 1) get this hypothetical girlfriend. Then (STEP 2) worry about this other nonsense.

There have to be about 1 billion things more important to a girl than how dominant your father will act when she's around.

Sure, women like men who are in control. But common sense tells you that a girl doesn't expect you to dominate 100% of the people you encounter in life. This imaginary girlfriend isn't going to go running away from you because your dad is bossy the 1% of the time she sees him. I mean, you don't plan on bringing Dad out on the dates with you, right?
 
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Mantis Toboggan said:
Sounds like you've been thinking too much, buddy.

How about you (STEP 1) get this hypothetical girlfriend. Then (STEP 2) worry about this other nonsense.

There have to be about 1 billion things more important to a girl than how dominant your father will act when she's around.

Sure, women like men who are in control. But common sense tells you that a girl doesn't expect you to dominate 100% of the people you encounter in life. This imaginary girlfriend isn't going to go running away from you because your dad is bossy the 1% of the time she sees him. I mean, you don't plan on bringing Dad out on the dates with you, right?
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You gotta point
 
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Mantis is spot-on. No need for other opinions.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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