"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Got a bit of a problem here. Long story short, me and my father both like being in control. Were both good when it comes to women, but when I get around him, and another womans in the room, we both want to be in control. The fact im living with my father I cant do everything I want and I have to listen to a degree but I feel when I have a GF this will take away from my relationship, because in every other situation im in control except when im around him. Basically what im asking does a girl always like a girl whos in control. Not of him self but of the situation, or do you think she'll understand my situation. This has been bothering me a lot lately and been thinking about it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Crissco said:
Got a bit of a problem here. Long story short, me and my father both like being in control. Were both good when it comes to women, but when I get around him, and another womans in the room, we both want to be in control. The fact im living with my father I cant do everything I want and I have to listen to a degree but I feel when I have a GF this will take away from my relationship, because in every other situation im in control except when im around him. Basically what im asking does a girl always like a girl whos in control. Not of him self but of the situation, or do you think she'll understand my situation. This has been bothering me a lot lately and been thinking about it.
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Sounds like you've been thinking too much, buddy.

How about you (STEP 1) get this hypothetical girlfriend. Then (STEP 2) worry about this other nonsense.

There have to be about 1 billion things more important to a girl than how dominant your father will act when she's around.

Sure, women like men who are in control. But common sense tells you that a girl doesn't expect you to dominate 100% of the people you encounter in life. This imaginary girlfriend isn't going to go running away from you because your dad is bossy the 1% of the time she sees him. I mean, you don't plan on bringing Dad out on the dates with you, right?
 
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Mantis Toboggan said:
Sounds like you've been thinking too much, buddy.

How about you (STEP 1) get this hypothetical girlfriend. Then (STEP 2) worry about this other nonsense.

There have to be about 1 billion things more important to a girl than how dominant your father will act when she's around.

Sure, women like men who are in control. But common sense tells you that a girl doesn't expect you to dominate 100% of the people you encounter in life. This imaginary girlfriend isn't going to go running away from you because your dad is bossy the 1% of the time she sees him. I mean, you don't plan on bringing Dad out on the dates with you, right?
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Mantis is spot-on. No need for other opinions.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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