Being Funny Around Girls Doesn't Get You Laid

[soulforge]

I'm naturally quite a funny guy, especially amongst my male friends.

However around females that I am trying to lay, I'm having to really force myself to have a somewhat more serious & mysterious persona!

It's not my natural state.. However I think the funny guy is more likely to get friend zoned or begin to get viewed by her as corny or the jester to entertain her in the friend zone.

Some what do you think guys? How funny should a man be around a female?

80% serious/mysterious 20% Funny seems to be a good balance!

 

[derby1]

I take a mental note, of anything funny I say, or anything smooth, then I talk business for the rest of the convo within reason...

I withdraw anymore funny or smooth comments for most of the meet. or DM session

I used to be over smooth, and women used to get paranoid, I was doing it to everyone, it served me no favours

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'm naturally quite a funny guy, especially amongst my male friends.

However around females that I am trying to lay, I'm having to really force myself to have a somewhat more serious & mysterious persona!

It's not my natural state.. However I think the funny guy is more likely to get friend zoned or begin to get viewed by her as corny or the jester to entertain her in the friend zone.

Some what do you think guys? How funny should a man be around a female?

80% serious/mysterious 20% Funny seems to be a good balance!

Nah, you need all 3 things at the same time...

Fun/funmy, intimacy and connection.

 

[cola]

You don’t want to be the “funny” guy per say. You want to be the clever, witty guy.

The trouble with the “funny guy” archetype is when over played you end up looking like a clown.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

http://ww25.sci-hub.tw/10.1111/j.1475-6811.1998.tb00174.x?subid1=20210314-1028-3311-ac20-64b718e4bf12

tldr: ‘men, expressing humor were rated as more desirable than nonhumorous individuals for a serious relationship and marriage, but only when these individuals were physically attractive.’

 

[Velasco]

https://www.skilledseducer.com/thre...-****y-funny-and-the-grand-master-style.23245

 

[EyeBRollin]

Humor works. But it has to be at the right time and
playful. Don’t be silly or corny.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's never one thing or another that leads to success...it is being able to mix in multiple things in interactions and bounce back and forth between them...

You can't just be funny because then she will think you are a cool guy but not really have any attraction towards you

You can't just be sexual because then she will think you are a desperate creepy dude who never gets laid

You can't just focus on building intimacy and connecting because then she will see you as just a friend.

It needs to be all 3 and mixing them in and out in different stages throughout the conversation.

 

[Velasco]

Silly and corny works too, mate. Field tested a billion times. Problem is 98% of people arent funny (most people fake laugh at jokes for social reasons). So they'll conclude funny doesnt work.

 

[Serenity]

80% serious/mysterious 20% Funny seems to be a good balance!

Is that all you are? A two dimensional person weighted 80% towards serious and 20% towards funny?

Being just the funny guy sure is worse, that's just one dimension of your personality. I'm sure you are more than just serious, funny or a ratio between those two. Maybe you have a philosophical side, passionate side, sexual side or anything else you can think of. Rich personalities are interesting, like there's so much in there she can't instantly figure all of you out and comes back for more and more and more.

Listen to @BackInTheGame78 too, same concept described differently.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Is that all you are? A two dimensional person weighted 80% towards serious and 20% towards funny?

Being just the funny guy sure is worse, that's just one dimension of your personality. I'm sure you are more than just serious, funny or a ratio between those two. Maybe you have a philosophical side, passionate side, sexual side or anything else you can think of. Rich personalities are interesting, like there's so much in there she can't instantly figure all of you out and comes back for more and more and more.

Listen to @BackInTheGame78 too, same concept described differently.

One thing that has really really helped me is my ability to tell stories and have them be interesting and fun and get the woman sucked into them...

If you want to learn how to do it properly watch late night talk shows when they have actors and actresses on and they tell stories...just think of 4 or 5 interesting stories you have in your life and follow their pattern when telling them and figure out ways to weave them into the convo...

After you do it long enough and keep using the same stories you'll be able to do it in your sleep and do it in an engaging way that gets them hooked in...

 

[Robert28]

Women like men with sociopathic traits, dark triad personality types. Funny doesn’t fit with that.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Women like men with sociopathic traits, dark triad personality types. Funny doesn’t fit with that.

Man you really are going far down the rabbit hole aren't you?

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Difference between having a sense of humor and trying to be funny in the same way a "nice guy" tries to nice his way into *****, you can't funny your way into it either.

 

[Robert28]

Man you really are going far down the rabbit hole aren't you?

I quit lying to myself about what I was seeing years ago. It stops being a coincidence after awhile.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I quit lying to myself about what I was seeing years ago. It stops being a coincidence after awhile.

If that's what you need to believe then do it. Is it their sociopathic traits they love or simply that they put themselves above the woman in importance?

 

[Robert28]

If that's what you need to believe then do it. Is it their sociopathic traits they love or simply that they put themselves above the woman in importance?

Both. They view the sociopathic traits as “mysterious”. Women can’t love men, we all know that on here, women can’t love period. Sociopaths can’t love either, they aren’t capable of this due to their brain not being wired normally. Women are attracted to this ultimate challenge and get burned. Being the “nice guy” repels women because it’s a reflection of what they know they aren’t and it’s like a vampire being shown light, they don’t like it.

 

[Guitar_Whizz]

I've said this before, but 'being funny' actually kills sexual tension and just causes women to see you more of a goofy, 'mr entertainment' sort of guy. It's best to be minimal with humour when pursuing a girl romantically/sexually.

One of the biggest myths about dating is the old cliche 'you need to make a girl laugh if you want to get her'. What bulllsh*t! A lot of PUA gurus perpetuated the myth too, eg David DeAngelo with his ridiculous 'c*cky & funny' theory of attraction.

I'd rather be seen as a more serious, mysterious, direct kind of guy who is bluntly spoken and to the point rather than doing 'goofy banter' style game that a lot of guys think works.

Witty is better than funny actually. A sprinkling here and there is ok, but keep it minimal.

 

[Robert28]

I've said this before, but 'being funny' actually kills sexual tension and just causes women to see you more of a goofy, 'mr entertainment' sort of guy. It's best to be minimal with humour when pursuing a girl romantically/sexually.

One of the biggest myths about dating is the old cliche 'you need to make a girl laugh if you want to get her'. What bulllsh*t! A lot of PUA gurus perpetuated the myth too, eg David DeAngelo with his ridiculous '****y & funny' theory of attraction.

I'd rather be seen as more serious, mysterious, direct kind of guy who is bluntly spoken and to the point rather than doing 'goofy banter' style game that a lot of guys think works.

Witty is better than funny actually. A sprinkling here and there is ok, but keep it minimal.

Dark and mysterious wins over funny all day every day. I had to breakout of the funny habit too, it made women too comfortable with me and backfired on me.

 

[Igetit!]

Man you really are going far down the rabbit hole aren't you?

Surely you must know.....there is some truth to what he's saying....right?

I mean I don't advocate for men acting like sociopaths as a means to attract women,but I have seen what @Robert28 is referring to. Stuff like women being attracted to serial killers,like Ted Bundy and Charles Manson isn't new.

I remember seeing this one episode of Dr. Phil,where this beautiful.....BEAUTIFUL woman....she was setting on stage....with one eye.

Her boyfriend shot her in the head........POINT BLANK..tried to kill her. Not only that,but when the police were called and showed up,she lied to them,said it was an accident. Why was she on the show? Because she was considering GOING BACK TO HIM once he got out of prison.


I was like,Well sh1t. If someone pointing a gun point blank at your head and pulling the trigger isn't enough to make you leave them,well daaaanm.


Reminds me of an episode of Seinfeld..... Jerry was being his normal funny self,when George asked him to stop being so funny cause he wanted to impress this woman. So Jerry goes full in the other direction,started acting all dark and depressed.....but that ended up attracting her.