"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Being called 'weird'

illmatic1005

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When ur gf, and basically every other girl, calls u weird..can this be a good thing?

im not talking about weird..like creepy, freaky, nerdy or anything like that...

talking about weird like doing random funny stuff, a lot of jokes, and funny stuff no one would ever think about, and being called 'random'

some girls tell me. 'it must be fun doing out with u..u make verything fun and and never predictable."

and i hear my gf just say "ur so weird..y r u so weird"
occasionally she would say "ur so weird, but i love it"

is this good or bad?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hopefully that's a good thing. I get that all the time. They basically say that because I act aloof when we are at "hang out" places and somewhat aggressive when we're alone with each other. I like cracking stupid jokes too - jokes the average guy don't have the balls to tell. Basically, I make her laugh and act as if I don't care what she thinks of me. That's when they say it.
 

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illmatic1005 said:
some girls tell me. 'it must be fun doing out with u..u make verything fun and and never predictable."

and i hear my gf just say "ur so weird..y r u so weird"
occasionally she would say "ur so weird, but i love it"

is this good or bad?

What does "doing out with you" mean?

"you make everything fun and never predictable" is good
"you are so weird, why are you so weird" is bad.
 

illmatic1005

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DonJuan11 said:
What does "doing out with you" mean?

"you make everything fun and never predictable" is good
"you are so weird, why are you so weird" is bad.
i meant to say going out with you...

y is 'u are so weird bad??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DonJuan11

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illmatic1005 said:
y is 'u are so weird bad??

If I was in love with a girl I wanted to sleep with, I wouldn't call her weird. I would tell her she is like no other girl I've met before and the most beautiful girl I've ever seen.

A girl calling you weird doesn't sound like she's in love with you.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Aren't we all a little weird in some way?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Aren't we all a little weird in some way?
Only if you're not boring. Weird takes effort, not everyone can handle that level of status though.
 

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Weird is SOOOOO not a bad thing!!! Just intrepret it as uniquie. :D Normal people suck!! :moon: :down:
 

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weird = different = standing out from being 'just another guy'.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Alphamale1821

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it's a good thing if it's a unique weirdness. Heres a good example her: "Chuk your weird" Me: "what can i say i love being weird". Her: "you should your good at it"(smile's) and proceeds to grab my arm as we go to lunch.

In this sense weird is unique not the creepy, weirdo. This is a good thing OP soak it up and use it for you advantage.
 

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You can DEFINITELY tell if a girl means that you are weird in a BAD way. If she meant it in a bad way, thats DEFINITELY the conversation ender, and she would DEFINITELY show negative IOIs.
 
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