"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Been married for 3 months, wife does not want to consumate marriage

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Hello,

I recently got married and took a honeymoon
with my wife.

During our honeymoon, my wife made sure that
we had two separate beds, and each night of the
honeymoon, we slept on separate beds.

I asked her why she would do this, and her response
is "is that all you think about?" and she would get upset.
For the sake of not arguing, I agreed to this ordeal.

Some background, I have been a virgin before
I got married, and now, I am still a virgin, 3 months
after my marriage.

My wife, does not want to consummate the marriage.
3 months later, we have moved into a house together
and now, living together, and we still sleep on separate
beds.

I do not want to bring this up with
the wife again, or she will get upset.

What should I do?

What can I do?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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LOL...Did you have an arranged marriage where there was little communication before the marriage.

Reeks of troll-dom.
 
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mangotot said:
LOL...Did you have an arranged marriage where there was little communication before the marriage.

Reeks of troll-dom.
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we dated first, and then decided to get married
 
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norm said:
we dated first, and then decided to get married
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I'd say this is a post by a guy for laughs. Or by a girl for whatever reason.

Too many holes in the story.

sex not discussed when dating.

Sorry - I don't buy it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I am officially in troll town. The only other "green" guy is Sideways :crackup:
 
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well if you are serious...

if you are in a sexless marriage in that she won't ever have sex with you, i suggest you get a divorce. or if you must stay with her (for whatever reason), you should cheat on her.

you, of course, reasonably want to have a marraige with a wife who you have sex with.
 
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Porn all day, son, porn all day!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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When we were dating, we discussed saving ourselves until marriage.
I was a virgin a time and I still am a virgin. I had no problem with that. But, I became very suspicious on our wedding night when she told me she wanted to sleep in separate beds.

She gets really upset whenever I bring it up and I am afraid I could lose her if I bring it up again. Maybe there could be a nice way to bring it up without arguing.

She says it is selfish to bring up such nonsense and that I am a bad husband if I bring it up ever again.
 
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As rare as it is, you do once in a long while hear about women that don't believe in pre-marital sex.

I have NEVER heard of a woman that doesn't believe in post-marital sex.

What is there to lose? All you have is a roommate with license to take half your stuff by virtue of a marriage license.

Under most state divorce laws, an unconsummated marriage can be annulled.
 
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Tictac said:
As rare as it is, you do once in a long while hear about women that don't believe in pre-marital sex.

I have NEVER heard of a woman that doesn't believe in post-marital sex.

What is there to lose? All you have is a roommate with license to take half your stuff by virtue of a marriage license.

Under most state divorce laws, an unconsummated marriage can be annulled.
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The other thing is that she is in the United States on a temporary work visa. Which makes me suspicious now. Is she only using me a for a green card? It is very unusual for couples not to consummate their marriage, but I also have a close friend who's been married for 12 years, and he is also a virgin, so it might be more common than we think.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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These red posters are getting out of hand.

No human can possibly be so naive.
 
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Should I confront her and tell her unless we start behaving like a normal couple we will get divorced?
 
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Have a talk with her. Ask her why she married you? Tell her that you are disappointed in her as a wife BECAUSE she is not being your wife. Ask her if it is only for papers and you not interesting to her.

Then divorce if nothing changes.


Honestly if you have a perfect woman you would ask anyone for advice, you son married someone else's wife.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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