"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Been Having Really Weird Dreams Lately

Georgepithyou

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I've been having really weird dreams of me traveling back to my old highschool or my old Town and meeting people i have never seen before in real life.
I'm really curious as to what exactly is going on in my mind to develop these dreams that i have been having for 7 weeks now during lockdown. I read that we can't create people and that everyone we dream about is someone we met.

Everytime i wake i forget most of the details, is there a way to clearly remember exactly what happens in your dreams or even control it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In the past two or three years I barely remember what I dream about and if I do its mostly some weird sh1t as well. I used to have much more interesting ones.
 

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The best option is to use the voice recorder option on your phone as soon as you wake up. Also, if something during the day reminds you of the dream, you can add this to your dream entry. Always save each entry by the date that you had your dream(s).
 

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I read that we can't create people and that everyone we dream about is someone we met.
That can't be true, you're able to dream up wild stuff you're barely able to imagine while awake, but can't make up people? Your dreams involving people you've never seen is proof enough.

Everytime i wake i forget most of the details, is there a way to clearly remember exactly what happens in your dreams or even control it?
Yes, some people do this as a hobby. I focused on this for a while and learned to take complete control in my dreams, kinda fun being all-powerful. Look up lucid dreaming, there's tons of stuff to read about it.

There's typically two techniques to induce lucid dreams, Mnemonic Induction to Lucid Dreaming (MILD) and Wake-Initiated Lucid Dream (WILD). Might want to look into that. As for remembering, write down what you remember immediately after waking up or record it as mentioned above. The memory is clearest at that time and then quickly fades.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hometown

To dream of your hometown indicates that you may be experiencing some unexpressed feelings. You may feel that you are not able to fully express your emotions. This could be triggered by some unfinished feeling in your waking life. The dream could also reflect aspects of yourself that were prominent or developed when you were living in your hometown. Did you abandon certain values or ideals when you moved to the big city? Did you forget some aspect of yourself and who you really are?
 
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