Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Been Gaining Some Muscle, So Why Do I Weigh the Same?

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Well i've been hittin up the gym for the past few months working arms, chest, shoulders, etc different days and i've fell into a nice routine.

It appears that i'm getting bigger, but I havent gained any weight. Now this makes me question if I actually have gained any muscle, considering that my weight is the same. Am I doing something wrong, i'm really confused. It's scientifically proven that more mass= more weight, so wtf is going on.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Drum&Bass

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I wouldn't worry about it, I'm going through the same shit right now.
Only thing I can think of is genetics. I've been from 140 lbs to 210 lbs back down to 170 lbs. I think this is close to where my genetic potential might be. Maybe as I hit my 30's I'll be around 180's. But I'm noticing that putting on LEAN muscle with no fat gives the appearance of being bigger but the scale says otherwise. Actually I don't even think I'm getting that much bigger rather, my body is becoming much more sculpted, its the the convex curves of the muscle that give the illusion of size.

oh and this whole concept of mass...I dunno, the more experienced I get with this fitness stuff the more I'm starting to think the term "MASS" is such a misleading word and not so great after all.

(my interpretation from a weightlifting perspective) Mass = FAT + MUSCLE = heavy
Lean = Low Fat + MUSCLE = light

which camp would you rather be in ???
 

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exactly, what are you in this for, gravity holding you down more strongly, or appearance of size?

if you really want to add weight and are determined, you'll need to eat more. but if you're happy with results in the mirror, who cares what the scale says?
 

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You're probably shedding the fat, and the definition you see now makes you appear more muscular.
 

Rata Blanca

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It's called gaining muscle while losing fat.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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