"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Been Gaining Some Muscle, So Why Do I Weigh the Same?

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Well i've been hittin up the gym for the past few months working arms, chest, shoulders, etc different days and i've fell into a nice routine.

It appears that i'm getting bigger, but I havent gained any weight. Now this makes me question if I actually have gained any muscle, considering that my weight is the same. Am I doing something wrong, i'm really confused. It's scientifically proven that more mass= more weight, so wtf is going on.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Drum&Bass

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I wouldn't worry about it, I'm going through the same shit right now.
Only thing I can think of is genetics. I've been from 140 lbs to 210 lbs back down to 170 lbs. I think this is close to where my genetic potential might be. Maybe as I hit my 30's I'll be around 180's. But I'm noticing that putting on LEAN muscle with no fat gives the appearance of being bigger but the scale says otherwise. Actually I don't even think I'm getting that much bigger rather, my body is becoming much more sculpted, its the the convex curves of the muscle that give the illusion of size.

oh and this whole concept of mass...I dunno, the more experienced I get with this fitness stuff the more I'm starting to think the term "MASS" is such a misleading word and not so great after all.

(my interpretation from a weightlifting perspective) Mass = FAT + MUSCLE = heavy
Lean = Low Fat + MUSCLE = light

which camp would you rather be in ???
 

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exactly, what are you in this for, gravity holding you down more strongly, or appearance of size?

if you really want to add weight and are determined, you'll need to eat more. but if you're happy with results in the mirror, who cares what the scale says?
 

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You're probably shedding the fat, and the definition you see now makes you appear more muscular.
 

Rata Blanca

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It's called gaining muscle while losing fat.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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