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Master Don Juan
Guru1000, this is great, please continue to share your inspiring stories with us.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
does not compute.BackInTheGame78 said:I already know is an extremely sexual woman based on conversations...
"Yeah that's cool as long as you wear something extra sexy for me" and she was like "I can definitely do that...I got lots of sexy clothes"
Both girls are dumbfounded by my comment. I turn away from them and walk toward my car. They are still standing there talking to each other while looking at my entering the car. I start the ignition. They walk over.Girl: <Says something in Russian to her friend while looking at me>
Guru: What’s that? You are asking for a ride? Sorry I don’t speak Russian, say that in English.
<Both girls turn to me and look obviously drunk or very buzzed>
Girl: Hey, you don’t know us. Why are you talking to us?
Guru: No, you got it wrong. Your friend here was trying to pick me up by asking for a ride.
Girl: She was talking to me, not you.
Guru: If you want a ride, get in the car right now. Otherwise, goodbye.
The girls enter the car.Girl: Hey, how do we know you won’t kidnap us?
Guru: Well, I haven’t kidnapped anyone … at least not lately. Get in.
I whip out my phone and show her a plate, who is freakin’ hot.Girl: Do you have a girlfriend?
Guru: A couple
Girl: A couple? I’m not into guys that are players.
Guru: Good, I didn’t want you getting the wrong idea.
Girl: What? Who do you think you are? Your gfs are probably ugly anyway.
I proceed to write down my number. She grabs the pen and paper, and proceeds to write down hers.Girl: Wow, she is beautiful.
Guru: Yeah, I’m not that into her. But what can I do? Anyway, it’s getting late, I have to get going. Give me your number.
Girl: I’m not giving you my number.
Guru: OK, what’s the difference, take mine and when you call, I’ll know yours. lol
I notice the girl is getting sleepy. She’s closing her eyes. We stop talking. After a few minutes, she lays down on my console, and I massage her hair and neck. Ten minutes later, this girl is out cold. I tell her, “Hey, let’s go back to my place. We’ll take a nap. When we get up, we’ll go jet skiing.” She doesn’t answer. I tell her again. She doesn’t respond. So, I start the car and start driving down to my place, lol.Guru: What are you doing tonight? Let’s hang out.
Girl: Why don’t we go jet skiing right now?
Guru: It’s 6 in the morning.
This is point of the whole thread.guru1000 said:I wouldn't do this with girls in my social circle, as my business rep hangs. But with any other girl, no holds barred.
Bill Cosby, is that you? Lol.guru1000 said:I notice the girl is getting sleepy. She’s closing her eyes. We stop talking. After a few minutes, she lays down on my console, and I massage her hair and neck. Ten minutes later, this girl is out cold. I tell her, “Hey, let’s go back to my place. We’ll take a nap. When we get up, we’ll go jet skiing.” She doesn’t answer. I tell her again. She doesn’t respond. So, I start the car and start driving down to my place, lol.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
As guys like Captain55, who is more muscular yet leaner than I, will tell you, being ripped with muscle mass alone is not enough to close the deal. You need game too.Married Buried said:I think guru posted his pics once and he is cut as hell like a body builder.. so ofcourse he can pull this stuff off.. for the average skinny guy there is no way.
guru1000 said:As guys like Captain55, who is more muscular yet leaner than I, will tell you, being ripped with muscle mass alone is not enough to close the deal. You need game too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Married Buried said:I think guru posted his pics once and he is cut as hell like a body builder.. so ofcourse he can pull this stuff off.. for the average skinny guy there is no way.
No disrespect intended to Guru (who is one of the best posters here), but I have yet to see any evidence that doing an "apocalypse" type move ("I want to fvck you" or whatever) gets you across the line any faster than just escalating through more traditional means (having fun, kinoing, going for the kiss, etc). There's more than one way to skin a cat.Alexandar said:give me a break are you that dense? maybe not the 'average' skinny guy but the 'average'muscular guy also.cant pull it off.
its much more game than build, dont be so ignorant.
Well, if nothing else, it makes for good threads.guru1000 said:Quite frankly, I wish to live a life unfettered by the social constructs of "proper etiquette" and "rightful behavioral patterns." I express what I want in an overt fashion, as society frowns upon a guy who walks up to a single lady (who shares the same desires) and says, "Hey, I want to fvck you." But why should I subjugate myself to social constructs? Because it's safer?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
guru1000 said:But why should I subjugate myself to social constructs? Because it's safer?
guru1000 said:The goal of this thread is test new ideas and bring new info to the community. I am here to help men become superstars, but I don't have all the answers. And so, you are all welcome to share your over-the-top ideas and experiences in this thread as well, and let's feed off one another.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.