rick6599
Don Juan
Asking a bartender out...hm. She is super model type, single. Suggestions?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bartender
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
rick6599
Don Juan
So far, the things go "well", you know, me tipping her, getting "oh here is my special customer" smiles, and getting free drinks from her. Now I am getting balls together to actually invite her somewhere...Don't mind a heartbreak on the way, lol, I need it now, too much emotionless sex in my life now - so, a little romance would be allright...
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The operative word here is "customer."
If she agrees to date you, I will be surprised.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ive asked one out.
i got this in return "i am not allowed to give out numbers"
i took out a napkin and said. ok, write it down then.
she smiled, gave me free drinks and all that, but woudnt give me the number when i asked, so i figured "i tried. time to move on"
a week later i heard another guy talking about this same chick he was hitting on, and how she gave him the same reply
i got this in return "i am not allowed to give out numbers"
i took out a napkin and said. ok, write it down then.
she smiled, gave me free drinks and all that, but woudnt give me the number when i asked, so i figured "i tried. time to move on"
a week later i heard another guy talking about this same chick he was hitting on, and how she gave him the same reply
Rick:
Ask her out. So what if she gives you some BS rejection line. Ask her out expecting a rejection so it doesn't hurt your pride. Isn't the whole point of this website to live with no regrets? I'd rather have some lame excuse handed to me instead living the rest of my life wondering what could've been.
Ask her out. So what if she gives you some BS rejection line. Ask her out expecting a rejection so it doesn't hurt your pride. Isn't the whole point of this website to live with no regrets? I'd rather have some lame excuse handed to me instead living the rest of my life wondering what could've been.
rick6599
Don Juan
I got a "painless" idea: Just ask her "Hey, seen this movie..bla bla......wanna go see it?"