rick6599
Don Juan
Asking a bartender out...hm. She is super model type, single. Suggestions?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bartender
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
rick6599
Don Juan
So far, the things go "well", you know, me tipping her, getting "oh here is my special customer" smiles, and getting free drinks from her. Now I am getting balls together to actually invite her somewhere...Don't mind a heartbreak on the way, lol, I need it now, too much emotionless sex in my life now - so, a little romance would be allright...
squirrels
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The operative word here is "customer."
If she agrees to date you, I will be surprised.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ive asked one out.
i got this in return "i am not allowed to give out numbers"
i took out a napkin and said. ok, write it down then.
she smiled, gave me free drinks and all that, but woudnt give me the number when i asked, so i figured "i tried. time to move on"
a week later i heard another guy talking about this same chick he was hitting on, and how she gave him the same reply
i got this in return "i am not allowed to give out numbers"
i took out a napkin and said. ok, write it down then.
she smiled, gave me free drinks and all that, but woudnt give me the number when i asked, so i figured "i tried. time to move on"
a week later i heard another guy talking about this same chick he was hitting on, and how she gave him the same reply
Rick:
Ask her out. So what if she gives you some BS rejection line. Ask her out expecting a rejection so it doesn't hurt your pride. Isn't the whole point of this website to live with no regrets? I'd rather have some lame excuse handed to me instead living the rest of my life wondering what could've been.
Ask her out. So what if she gives you some BS rejection line. Ask her out expecting a rejection so it doesn't hurt your pride. Isn't the whole point of this website to live with no regrets? I'd rather have some lame excuse handed to me instead living the rest of my life wondering what could've been.
rick6599
Don Juan
I got a "painless" idea: Just ask her "Hey, seen this movie..bla bla......wanna go see it?"