rick6599
Don Juan
Asking a bartender out...hm. She is super model type, single. Suggestions?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Bartender
- Thread starter rick6599
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
rick6599
Don Juan
So far, the things go "well", you know, me tipping her, getting "oh here is my special customer" smiles, and getting free drinks from her. Now I am getting balls together to actually invite her somewhere...Don't mind a heartbreak on the way, lol, I need it now, too much emotionless sex in my life now - so, a little romance would be allright...
squirrels
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The operative word here is "customer."
If she agrees to date you, I will be surprised.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ive asked one out.
i got this in return "i am not allowed to give out numbers"
i took out a napkin and said. ok, write it down then.
she smiled, gave me free drinks and all that, but woudnt give me the number when i asked, so i figured "i tried. time to move on"
a week later i heard another guy talking about this same chick he was hitting on, and how she gave him the same reply
i got this in return "i am not allowed to give out numbers"
i took out a napkin and said. ok, write it down then.
she smiled, gave me free drinks and all that, but woudnt give me the number when i asked, so i figured "i tried. time to move on"
a week later i heard another guy talking about this same chick he was hitting on, and how she gave him the same reply
Rick:
Ask her out. So what if she gives you some BS rejection line. Ask her out expecting a rejection so it doesn't hurt your pride. Isn't the whole point of this website to live with no regrets? I'd rather have some lame excuse handed to me instead living the rest of my life wondering what could've been.
Ask her out. So what if she gives you some BS rejection line. Ask her out expecting a rejection so it doesn't hurt your pride. Isn't the whole point of this website to live with no regrets? I'd rather have some lame excuse handed to me instead living the rest of my life wondering what could've been.
rick6599
Don Juan
I got a "painless" idea: Just ask her "Hey, seen this movie..bla bla......wanna go see it?"