"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Banging a girl on the rebound?

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Today I run into this girl I know that works at my weekend job. We don't work together however and it's been almost 2 months since the last time I've seen her. In the past she's been kind of flirty with me, but she had a bf who I knew so I never took it past a little flirting and teasing her. But today she tells me she broke up with her bf. So I steer the conversation this way (I'm paraphrasing here mind you):

Me: So what have you been up to these day?
Her: Nothing much, just working. Oh and I'm taking classes on the weekend so I don't work weekends anymore.
Me: Cool, so I take it your free on Sat and Sun nights now?
Her: Yeah, well I do a bit of homework but that's about it.
Me: Ok, so how about we hang out sometime.
Her: Sure. Me, (girl I know), and (another girl I know) will probably be going out one night, you could come.
Me: Maybe. Give me your number and I'll give you a call.
Her: xxx-xxx-xxxx
Me: Alright, talk to you later, bye.
Her: bye

I'm not so sure about going partying with her and her 2 friends, but I definitely want to bang this chick.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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PectoralisMajor said:
isolate her, dont meet up with her friends unless your friends are there too.
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Yeah, didn't think meeting up with the other 2 girls would be a good idea. I invited her out tmrw night instead. She's chilling at her friends tmrw but will call me when she's done.
 
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Just don't catch feelings for a girl on the rebound :)

A good thing to do is make sure you guys kick it in YOUR element (your houseparty, a place you've been to a lot before. If you can do this even her friends can come too; you can play them off each other to not only build comfort by building rapport with her friends but also to play a little attention-jealousy game :)

If you are hanging out with people SHE knows or going somewhere she's familiar with and doing something she planned, it won't be as easy to control your interaction with her.
 
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He11 tap it,just don't get feelings for her for a LOOOONG time. Make sure she is into YOU, not just into "not being alone"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sodbuster said:
He11 tap it,just don't get feelings for her for a LOOOONG time. Make sure she is into YOU, not just into "not being alone"
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not gonna happen. Already made a move to get her out earlier this week, she flaked on me.
 
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