niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
What is the pros and cons of leaving the ''ball'' in her court?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ball in her court
- Thread starter niceguytoalphamale
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
logicallefty
Moderator
Very easy one. You know exactly where you stand.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
uhh...who cares?
If she's chasing you, it's undeniable.
None of this silly tennis sh!t.
You really want to wait around, for her to hit the ball or not?
If she's chasing you, it's undeniable.
None of this silly tennis sh!t.
You really want to wait around, for her to hit the ball or not?
U
user43770
Guest
When you first meet?
The pros: you never have to actually get to know this b1tch. You don't have to listen to her complain, talk about her mother, her co-workers, sh1t she wants to buy...
The cons: you probably won't ever have sex with her.
You have to give them attention early on in order to copulate; you have to win them over. This is the man's duty per evolution.
Every male animal has to do it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.