"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Balancing being serious with ****y/funny

sharpshooter

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This is the one thing I really have to work on. I'm either really really serious, or really really ****y/funny. I can't consistantly hit a medium. How many people here went through that phase, do you just learn with time/experience or what?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ScrewIt

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im still going through that phase somewhat, altho i think im finding a way to the middle. its possible to have a medium between the 2. but i'd say you just gotta realize when to be c/f and when to be serious.
 

DJUofS

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Originally posted by sharpshooter
This is the one thing I really have to work on. I'm either really really serious, or really really ****y/funny. I can't consistantly hit a medium. How many people here went through that phase, do you just learn with time/experience or what?
There is no definite medium for several reasons. 1. It depends on the girl. 2. It depends on your delivery. 3. It depends on what the actual joke is. Everything comes with experience. Every tip on these boards can't be learned over night... they can only be practiced so you can get better at them. There is no 'magic formula' for c&f or anything like that.
 

b's nuts

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I think I am having this problem to. My gf says that im never serious, I am always laughing and joking around, never show emotion or are serious. I just told her she has seen emotion in me, when i get mad (thats about it). She says she wants to see me cry, I think she might think im to macho. Either way, I think i am having this same problem.
 

Raven125

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Originally posted by b's nuts
I think I am having this problem to. My gf says that im never serious, I am always laughing and joking around, never show emotion or are serious. I just told her she has seen emotion in me, when i get mad (thats about it). She says she wants to see me cry, I think she might think im to macho. Either way, I think i am having this same problem.
Duh! She wants to soften you up.. thats why girls go after jerks anyways.. because its easier to turn a jerk nice than turn a nice guy hardcore. I get similar stuff too and it doesnt phase me a bit...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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