Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Balancing being serious with ****y/funny

sharpshooter

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This is the one thing I really have to work on. I'm either really really serious, or really really ****y/funny. I can't consistantly hit a medium. How many people here went through that phase, do you just learn with time/experience or what?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ScrewIt

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im still going through that phase somewhat, altho i think im finding a way to the middle. its possible to have a medium between the 2. but i'd say you just gotta realize when to be c/f and when to be serious.
 

DJUofS

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Originally posted by sharpshooter
This is the one thing I really have to work on. I'm either really really serious, or really really ****y/funny. I can't consistantly hit a medium. How many people here went through that phase, do you just learn with time/experience or what?
There is no definite medium for several reasons. 1. It depends on the girl. 2. It depends on your delivery. 3. It depends on what the actual joke is. Everything comes with experience. Every tip on these boards can't be learned over night... they can only be practiced so you can get better at them. There is no 'magic formula' for c&f or anything like that.
 

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I think I am having this problem to. My gf says that im never serious, I am always laughing and joking around, never show emotion or are serious. I just told her she has seen emotion in me, when i get mad (thats about it). She says she wants to see me cry, I think she might think im to macho. Either way, I think i am having this same problem.
 

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Originally posted by b's nuts
I think I am having this problem to. My gf says that im never serious, I am always laughing and joking around, never show emotion or are serious. I just told her she has seen emotion in me, when i get mad (thats about it). She says she wants to see me cry, I think she might think im to macho. Either way, I think i am having this same problem.
Duh! She wants to soften you up.. thats why girls go after jerks anyways.. because its easier to turn a jerk nice than turn a nice guy hardcore. I get similar stuff too and it doesnt phase me a bit...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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