"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Balancing being serious with ****y/funny

sharpshooter

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This is the one thing I really have to work on. I'm either really really serious, or really really ****y/funny. I can't consistantly hit a medium. How many people here went through that phase, do you just learn with time/experience or what?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ScrewIt

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im still going through that phase somewhat, altho i think im finding a way to the middle. its possible to have a medium between the 2. but i'd say you just gotta realize when to be c/f and when to be serious.
 

DJUofS

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Originally posted by sharpshooter
This is the one thing I really have to work on. I'm either really really serious, or really really ****y/funny. I can't consistantly hit a medium. How many people here went through that phase, do you just learn with time/experience or what?
There is no definite medium for several reasons. 1. It depends on the girl. 2. It depends on your delivery. 3. It depends on what the actual joke is. Everything comes with experience. Every tip on these boards can't be learned over night... they can only be practiced so you can get better at them. There is no 'magic formula' for c&f or anything like that.
 

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I think I am having this problem to. My gf says that im never serious, I am always laughing and joking around, never show emotion or are serious. I just told her she has seen emotion in me, when i get mad (thats about it). She says she wants to see me cry, I think she might think im to macho. Either way, I think i am having this same problem.
 

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Originally posted by b's nuts
I think I am having this problem to. My gf says that im never serious, I am always laughing and joking around, never show emotion or are serious. I just told her she has seen emotion in me, when i get mad (thats about it). She says she wants to see me cry, I think she might think im to macho. Either way, I think i am having this same problem.
Duh! She wants to soften you up.. thats why girls go after jerks anyways.. because its easier to turn a jerk nice than turn a nice guy hardcore. I get similar stuff too and it doesnt phase me a bit...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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