"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Balancing being serious with ****y/funny

sharpshooter

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This is the one thing I really have to work on. I'm either really really serious, or really really ****y/funny. I can't consistantly hit a medium. How many people here went through that phase, do you just learn with time/experience or what?
 

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ScrewIt

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im still going through that phase somewhat, altho i think im finding a way to the middle. its possible to have a medium between the 2. but i'd say you just gotta realize when to be c/f and when to be serious.
 

DJUofS

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Originally posted by sharpshooter
This is the one thing I really have to work on. I'm either really really serious, or really really ****y/funny. I can't consistantly hit a medium. How many people here went through that phase, do you just learn with time/experience or what?
There is no definite medium for several reasons. 1. It depends on the girl. 2. It depends on your delivery. 3. It depends on what the actual joke is. Everything comes with experience. Every tip on these boards can't be learned over night... they can only be practiced so you can get better at them. There is no 'magic formula' for c&f or anything like that.
 

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I think I am having this problem to. My gf says that im never serious, I am always laughing and joking around, never show emotion or are serious. I just told her she has seen emotion in me, when i get mad (thats about it). She says she wants to see me cry, I think she might think im to macho. Either way, I think i am having this same problem.
 

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Originally posted by b's nuts
I think I am having this problem to. My gf says that im never serious, I am always laughing and joking around, never show emotion or are serious. I just told her she has seen emotion in me, when i get mad (thats about it). She says she wants to see me cry, I think she might think im to macho. Either way, I think i am having this same problem.
Duh! She wants to soften you up.. thats why girls go after jerks anyways.. because its easier to turn a jerk nice than turn a nice guy hardcore. I get similar stuff too and it doesnt phase me a bit...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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