"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bad form to ask a girl out right away?

nicksaiz65

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So say you’re talking to a girl you just met and you’ve got a good rapport going. Is it bad to ask her out right away? As in right before you leave “Ay we should go get coffee sometime, what’s your Snap?” Or should you just get her Snap and ask her out after talking to her for like a week?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So say you’re talking to a girl you just met and you’ve got a good rapport going. Is it bad to ask her out right away? As in right before you leave “Ay we should go get coffee sometime, what’s your Snap?” Or should you just get her Snap and ask her out after talking to her for like a week?
Fvck no, strike while the iron is hot.

When you feel confident enough, go for insta dates
 

Billtx49

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Ditto, you should have hit her up for a date while you had the rapport going.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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marmel75

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So say you’re talking to a girl you just met and you’ve got a good rapport going. Is it bad to ask her out right away? As in right before you leave “Ay we should go get coffee sometime, what’s your Snap?” Or should you just get her Snap and ask her out after talking to her for like a week?
Ask her out for a coffee on the spot and go on an instadate.

Personally I would rather be tortured to death than use Snapchat
 

nicksaiz65

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Ask her out for a coffee on the spot and go on an instadate.

Personally I would rather be tortured to death than use Snapchat
Big mood haha. Pretty much everyone uses Snap these days though so it’s impossible to get around it imho
 

RangerMIke

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If I know a chick is really interested I always ask them out on the spot. I want to know as soon as possible if they are in or not because I do not like to waste time. If I'm not sure or if I like her but I'm not getting any IOI back from her, I'll ask for her number and call her later. Then see if she answers, will go out, and actually shows up. Some chicks are hard to read.

The key is to do what you want... if you want to ask her out, ask her out.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

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