You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I answered your question before you asked it.TheDoctor said:What about the casual encounters section? There are always tons of decent looking w*ores looking for c0ck (in my area anyway). Are they legit? Dirty nymphos needing some action is the vibe I get. Any input?
------------------------------Maxtro said:I find Craigslist to be a waste of time. The first problem is that about 90% of the girls on Craigslist aren't real. If you do find a girl who's real you're probably the 50th guy who messaged her. Good luck getting her to reply to your message let alone read it.
If you aren't hot, when what? I'm just an average dude. Do you need to have a picture on your ad?Duffdog said:One-- I am attractive. Believe it or not, all hot girls on craigslist simply ignore EVERYTHING you wrote and scroll down and look at your picture first. Then, if you pass, they might read a thing or two.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Stupid question, but, how do you know that you aren't attractive? I know that my face is not, but I am tall and work out all the time so I have that going for me. The picture is the key--seriously. Maybe spike your hair or do something which make you look eye catching. Ask some average girl what she would do to make you look better. Different haircut, different clothes, sunglasses etc. There has to be something you can do to have some sort of an edge.Maxtro said:I answered your question before you asked it.
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If you aren't hot, when what? I'm just an average dude. Do you need to have a picture on your ad?
Next what do you do if you are not a "naturally ****y person." On a scale of a nice guy to ****y jerk, I'm a 6.5 though I'm starting to shift slowly towards ****y. I don't want to fake ****iness in my profile or replies because I can't hold it up in conversation.
I don't care about getting the hottest girls. I'll be perfectly happy if I can end up having sex with 5's on up.