"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ayn Rand DJing?

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I don't know if any of you have read "The Fountainhead", but lately I've been seeing some Howard Roark pimps out there. These guys are blunt, straight-forward, and painfully honest, but it seems to work because they have no fear of rejection (since objectivism is all about not giving a **** about anything). In a strange way, these Howard Roarks are the ultimate form of Don Juanism, except they are so stoic that it's hard to tell whether they really know what they're doing or not.

Has anyone encountered this? I've tried not caring at all, and it's been great with the ladies. :rock:

For more on "The Fountainhead"/Howard Roark, consult this.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Objectivist_philosophy

"My philosophy, in essence, is the concept of man as a heroic being, with his own happiness as the moral purpose of his life, with productive achievement as his noblest activity, and reason as his only absolute."

The quote above sort of sums up the kind of mindset I'm referring to
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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There's a better DJ in Rand's work "Atlas Shrugged." It's the guy with the foreign name.
 

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"because they have no fear of rejection"

Why not dj with no fear of rejection?
 

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Dude, ever since I stopped giving a ****, I've noticed atleast a threefold success. Don't give a **** what other people think about you because it's your world, not theres.
 

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this is actually a very fascinating thread

i'll take a look at the link in a bit (im on a slow hospital computer) but i do remember seeing a bruce willis film in which he and this kinda nerdy guy break from jail. he's like the craziest confident resiliant smooth guy ever and i was really fascinated by it. i think we should post movies and books in which the characters show good examples of dj additude so some of the struggling afcs on this board can get a real feel for how these guys think and act while we point out the stuff that really makes them different.

EDIT: btw the movie is called 'bandit' and heres a link about it
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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