"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Walking Anomaly

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Hey all, How's Life??

Anyway, I got this new girlfriend. She's cool and everything and she likes me enough to bring up us becoming a couple so now you could say we're official.

We go out last night and things go great. We get back to my house and things get heavy, and we end up trying to have sex...i say trying because it was unsuccessful. Ya see, she's a virgin, so when we were trying, it would not go in. After a little bit of trying I stop and we just chill...I'm not forcing it. We talk and laugh a bit (not about the sex attempt), and I take her home.

I say it's a potentially awkward situation because now that sex was tried for the first time and failed, the next time it comes, the first failed attempt might be in the back of my head f*kin with me a bit, even though it wasn't anything I did. And I'm sure she'll have it in the back of her mind too.

There's also a question in the back of my mind along the lines of what was said in the above paragraph...since we've tried once already, I'm thinking it might be awkward because the next time we hang, she might be expecting it or something, or not want to chill because she's figures i'll do it again and that's going to fast for her...

I'm not going to try again the very next time we see each other...we'll do whatever I have planned and thats it, going back to each others house is still fair game, but I'm not going to focus on making moves...


I'm probably overanalyzing
Advice, criticisms, or thoughts on how I handled it are welcome
Much appreciated

Let me know if you need more info...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kidd

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Are you sure you were sticking it in the right place?
 

True Wolf

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Originally posted by Kidd
Are you sure you were sticking it in the right place?
:crackup: !!!

Oh man, lol!

Dude, don't worry about it, just laugh about it, and do whatever your primal instincts tell you to do next time.
 

NYC Dude

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Though it seems silly, Kidd may be right. Unless your **** is damn huge, it should still be able to go in.
 

oakraiderz2

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Originally posted by NYC Dude
Though it seems silly, Kidd may be right. Unless your **** is damn huge, it should still be able to go in.
Youd be suprised how tight p*ssies are. My ex wasnt a virgin but she was tight as hell and it was a little hard to get it in.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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08aisaac

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I can imagine, this is weird, but only if you think it is weird. It's all in the head. No pun intended.
 
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Originally posted by Walking Anomaly
Hey all, How's Life??

Anyway, I got this new girlfriend. She's cool and everything and she likes me enough to bring up us becoming a couple so now you could say we're official.

We go out last night and things go great. We get back to my house and things get heavy, and we end up trying to have sex...i say trying because it was unsuccessful. Ya see, she's a virgin, so when we were trying, it would not go in. After a little bit of trying I stop and we just chill...I'm not forcing it. We talk and laugh a bit (not about the sex attempt), and I take her home.

I say it's a potentially awkward situation because now that sex was tried for the first time and failed, the next time it comes, the first failed attempt might be in the back of my head f*kin with me a bit, even though it wasn't anything I did. And I'm sure she'll have it in the back of her mind too.

There's also a question in the back of my mind along the lines of what was said in the above paragraph...since we've tried once already, I'm thinking it might be awkward because the next time we hang, she might be expecting it or something, or not want to chill because she's figures i'll do it again and that's going to fast for her...

I'm not going to try again the very next time we see each other...we'll do whatever I have planned and thats it, going back to each others house is still fair game, but I'm not going to focus on making moves...


I'm probably overanalyzing
Advice, criticisms, or thoughts on how I handled it are welcome
Much appreciated

Let me know if you need more info...

Dude where are you from ???kentucky, virginia or what? Your probaly tryin to stick it on top lol Dude this is the funniest sh*t i ever heard!
 

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Stick your **** in a bucket of vaseline and then push with all your might. That's pretty much the last resort.

:D
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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